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My son who is 2 years old (4/26/05) is driving me absolutely crazy!
He doesn't listen at all. The word "no" doesn't mean anything to him.
He refuses to pick up toys or food he spills on the floor.
He constantly cries when he can't do what he wants.
He's always into everything and anything he's not supposed to.
I don't know, is it me??
Kim |
| Posted by Kim on 06/20/2007 09:12 PM
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| Have you tried time outs? If he doesnt pick up his toys take them away and only give him a few instead of all of them. My aunt is going through the same thing with her son and when I watch she will tell him to do something and he will cry and refuse and she always gives in or she will punish him and follow through. It's important to let the child know you mean what you say and don't give in. Alot of it is the age also, at this age they are constantly testing their limits and as long as you stay firm on your this will pass. It's not you it's the age. Thois to shall pass lol. Good luck |
| posted by amber on 06/20/2007 09:24 PM
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| unfortunatly I think that's how it goes.my daughter will be 2 in aug.an to be sure she does the same thing. I've found that the only thing to do is take things away, ask her why she's upset, sit her down and let her try to get over it.But I think at this age They just see what can get any attention so if he dose something wrong stop him move it and don't react too much; and then when he does what is right act like it's the best thing ever . That's working for her with potty training, throwing food and little by little with her "tantrums." Hope I Helped!! |
| posted by Johnee on 06/20/2007 09:30 PM
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| Well you have to be tough!! My daughter is two and works my husband and I like no tomorrow. I am not a huge fan of time out, because it gives them attention. If Sophie is throughing a fit I just let her be, and scream as long as she wants, I say nothing and she gets so mad but then she realizes I am saying nothing. So she stops, it took a while before she understood what I was doing. If she does not say please she does not get what she wants until she does, she learned that pretty quick, it was tough for a while because I was a single mother for a while and her father had to do the same thing I was doing. So I guess what I would do is just stick to what you want him to do. If he spills something you MAKE HIM CLEAN IT and do not give up until her does, it may take a while until he gets it, but he will I PROMISE!!! If he screams ignore him. I know it sounds mean but it is not!! |
| posted by Jeanette on 06/20/2007 09:34 PM
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| Hey Kim. The terrible "Twos" are upon you. I would say it does get better, but my three year old still does it. You totally have to set some boundaries, so he knows what he can and cannot do. I remember when my son started doing this, we had to actually physically make him pick something up, not harshly, but matter of factly. Then we calmly said we would take something away from him or even throw it away in the garbage if he didn't HELP pick it up. Let's be realistic, they need help picking some stuff up. My three year old now, helps pick up, and asks for help. It will come eventually. Are you starting to potty train? That is when the fun really starts! Good luck to you. My heart is with you. |
| posted by Roxanne on 06/20/2007 09:45 PM
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Unfortunately that is what 2 year olds do. My son is 2 and loves to throw himself on the floor screaming and hitting himself in the head out of frustration. I do 2 things, let him have his fit on the floor, ignoring him until he stops or put him in his crib for a time out. Time outs seem to work the best for him, but every child is different. Just be consistant with whatever you do.
Good luck. |
| posted by Angela on 06/20/2007 10:19 PM
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Thank you everybody!
I was thinking it was the terrible twos, unfortunately I have a three year old daughter who is going through the terrible threes as well. Hope my son stops after the 2s. : )
I bought him a potty, but he wants nothing to do with it, so I'm not pushing it. My daughter was three when she got it, I just told her no more diapers, she a couple accidents and then fine!
But I do think my son does it mostly for attention. I do try and ignore him when he's having a fit and I absolutely never give in. I do have to make him sit down and pick up something.
I now refuse to take him shopping because he just wants to run around the store on me! : 0
I guess I just have to wait it out.
I will try to get down to his level when he's crying to talk to him, but that's hard, found that out with my daughter when she throws a fit, just ignore them!
Thank you again!
This group is great! |
| posted by Kim on 06/21/2007 08:16 AM
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Hang in there Kim u are not alone. They are for sure testing their boundries and how far they can get with us. Just know u are not alone we are all on the same ship as u
Laura |
| posted by laura on 06/21/2007 09:19 AM
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| no, honey, it is not you. he is a 2 year old. my daughter is 21 months, and is the same way!!! bare with it and take any help you can get. be sure to take a few hours to yourself to keep your sanity. let daddy take him out or someone you trust, take a long bath and relax and get ready for round two! |
| posted by Jennifer on 06/21/2007 12:33 PM
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| Kim, you're right, I believe they do a lot of tantrum throwing for attention. I noticed the two's coming on right around 20 months, my sweet, perfect angel suddenly started throwing tantrums...My husband & I decided that with great intent we would start praising him for every little thing he did well, and just ignoring the bad behavior altogether. Unless it was dangerous, we wouldn't even acknowledge bad behavior...i.e. It's so nice you woke up happy today, Thank you for being so smiley, Thank you for playing so nicely, Thank you for helping mommy pick up your toys, thank you for being so fun, thank you for eating nicely...Ethan turned two on June 7th, in the past two, three weeks there has been the return of his sweet self. It's actually been really amazing! If I know we are going to the store, I start preparing him all day by praising him...I make sure if we are at the mall that I make some time for him to let go of some energy by having time at the play area, I pack healthy snacks & water so he's not getting sugar which is a mood enhancer, and I stay away from being out around his nap times...Sometimes it takes way too myuch coordination but it is worth it to me. I don't think kids enjoy throwing fits, they are just communicating... |
| posted by tara on 06/21/2007 02:47 PM
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| It sounds like were in the same boat, my son was born 4/20/05, he is driving me just as crazy with the not listening, taking away things has worked, timeouts haven't. Is you son still in the crib? My son climbed out at 22 months and then we realized he was too big for a crib and is now in a real bed getting him to bed has been the hassle, once you get him to sleep it's great. And of course he is a mommy's boy so my husband gets out of doing everything. |
| posted by Michele on 06/21/2007 03:19 PM
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