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| I just recently received my credit statement in the mail and when I husband opened it, he found $112 worth of charges on it after he had just paid it off. I looked at the statement and realized that the charges are from when I was trying to check to credit score through freetriplescore.com. The tv ad said that it's was free but what they or the small print tell you is that you has signed up for identity protect of 29.95 a month. Anyway, long story short he yelled and banged his fist on the wall, luckly there was no hole, but just the simple fact is that he yelled at me for making a honest mistake. I don that alot and it upsets me that lately I can't do anything right. Trust I love my husband to death and we have not even been a married one year and I know that all marriages go through rough patches every now and then. |
| Posted by Chelle on 01/24/2009 03:31 PM
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Hi Chelle,
I read your note and I said to myself "boy I can Identify with this woman"... Bottom line is this.. we all make those mistakes.. I understand the yelling bothers you.. it would bother me too but it to me is purely a reaction to stress.... shake off your doubt you can do alot of right things...the three problems in marriage are 1 money, 2 sex, and 3 kids.... |
| posted by ellen on 01/24/2009 11:52 PM
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I unerstand how you feel. However, I would have to talk to my husband and tell him that I do not like to be yelled at. We must work together and communicate. |
| posted by Marjorie on 01/26/2009 12:57 AM
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| Been there with the credit card thing .mainly forgetting to pay and have a late fee show up on the next bill. At times he treats me like a child on telling me how I can not handle money. And yes at times his voice does get very high ( ok , yelling ) . I camly say are you finished ! and camly explain .( which can have a tough time pulling off ) . But I do watch my P's and Q's when it comes to using the credit card. |
| posted by Patricia on 01/26/2009 07:05 PM
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I watch the way I spend with the credit cards as well. I do not like to feel I am working for someone else. They always somehow manage to change your rate or have fees. I am not crazy about them. They would ike for you to be in their debt. |
| posted by Marjorie on 01/26/2009 07:12 PM
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As much as I hate to admit it, this is normal. He's either stressed or upset over something else and minor things you may do at the end of the day may just be the last straw (that broke the camel's back). I used to do this w/ my daugther's dad. Let's say for example I'd get home from work & every day he'd ask "what are you going to make for dinner, babe?" I would either say what I had in mind or ask what he felt like eating or simply say I was ordering out because I was tired. Well there were times when he'd be ridding my last nerver for 2 or 3 days & to top it off just had a bad day at work. So.. when he'd do the normal "what's for dinner babe?" I'd blow my top "What the F&*%, I just walked in the f*&% door. Can I please just rest my feet for 5 f&*% minutes? My God. What the hell would you eat before you met me!?" and so on and so on. In reality, his question didnt bother me, but I just took it out on him.
The difference between my ex and us is that he's a man so he probably just chalked it up to "hormones" and only heard "blah blah blah" as he tunned me out thinking "there she goes, tripping again" Us, however, we blame ourselves for everything and feel like you do, Chelle. Like we can do no right. I would personally just let it go (it it only happened this once or twice) or tell him I'd be more than happy to hear him out if other things are bothering him or upsetting him, but I will not be the person he comes home to to take all his problems out on. |
| posted by April on 01/27/2009 03:33 PM
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I know exactly wat you mean. In the beginning of our marriage, my husband use to take his frustrations out on me. I was going for that!! I do not know why the wife has to be their fall guy. |
| posted by Marjorie on 01/28/2009 02:30 AM
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I hear you April .. We all have bad days at work and I realize sometime we are the 1st person's we see. but remember what ever happen at work I'm more then welling to listen and understand just realize I didn't cause it !!!!
or rright now my neighbors are loving me. from the ice storm last night one of my tree's touching wire caught on fire so now waiting for bge . WHY they are here. the thing is ladies I have power still. hope my neighbors are still talking to me LOL |
| posted by Patricia on 01/28/2009 02:00 PM
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