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| Hi, my son is 9 months old and was sleeping through the night until recently. Now he wakes up 2 to 3 times a night. He goes back to sleep if we feed him, but I feel that he should be able to sleep through without the bottles. Also, because we both work, he ends up in my bed in the middle of the night. Any advice on how to get the baby to sleep through the night on his own? |
| Posted by Christine on 01/21/2009 10:42 AM
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| good luck with this - I breastfed my son until he was 13 and a half months, and he always woke up to nurse at least once a night to nurse until about a year old...sorry I'm not much help, but if he eats when he wakes up, I'd just feed him....maybe he's going through a growth spurt, and needs the extra food at night. |
| posted by on 01/21/2009 10:58 AM
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| maybe you are right. I do feed him and he usually goes right back to sleep, I guess I'll just have to wait it out. thanks. |
| posted by Christine on 01/21/2009 01:28 PM
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| maybe you are right. I do feed him and he usually goes right back to sleep, I guess I'll just have to wait it out. thanks. |
| posted by Christine on 01/21/2009 01:28 PM
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Just wanted to chime in. My son is 13 months, and still wakes up (usually twice) at night to nurse. For a while I was really stressed about his night waking, but it was really because I felt like he 'shouldn't' wake up. I couldn't come up with a reason why he shouldn't, though, and realized I only thought so because of what other people said.
When I thought about it, I decided that other people don't live in my house, so his night waking isn't bugging them. When I let go of my stress about night waking, a strange thing happened... I felt more rested! I wasn't getting any more sleep, but my attitude about it was changed. I have a wakeful son. He is also social, bright, curious, determined, affectionate and vocal. Wakeful is just part of the whole package.
I still have rough nights, and feel crummy about the night-waking from time to time. But generally, we are all coping much better now. And because I work part-time, I think those night wakings make up for those snuggle, nurse and connect times that we would otherwise miss.
As for ending up in your bed, I do that to. You have to do what works for your family. If you are looking for support for choices that are out of the mainstream, all you have to do is look. There are lots of other cosleeping families with wakeful babies, and their kids are turning out just fine. |
| posted by Lisa on 01/21/2009 01:48 PM
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Great post Lisa!
Another thing in addition to the hunger - your baby is only 9 months - such a baby still - maybe along with the food comfort, the close contact to Mommy comfort that he gets during the night waking/feeding sessions is something he needs more these days too....I'm big into attachment parenting and responding to your baby's needs, so I would do whatever it takes to make sure your little guy is happy. :) Seems like you're doing well :)
Take Care! |
| posted by on 01/21/2009 01:59 PM
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My daughter was doing this until about 7-8 months old, but now sleeps all the way through at 9 months. I really believe that like us, they should be able to go all night without needing a feeding at this age...especially if they are eating well through the day. I think in my situation she became use to this and expected it. The only time that I would break and give into a night time feeding was if I knew she didn't take much before bedtime...and sometimes that still happens, but very rarely.
Now if she wakes up in the middle of the night it is to play. I think at this age they begin to discover new milestones and when they wake they like to try them out. They don't care what time it is, LOL. If my daughter wakes up I wait about 20 minutes to she if she will fall back to sleep. She usually does, BUT...if she starts to cry and whine I will go in, NOT pick her up, but situate her and get her comfortable and that usually works for us.
Every situation and baby is very different and you need to do what feels right to you as a mother. Good luck. Just stay calm and be patient...the will work it out eventually :) |
| posted by Sandy on 01/21/2009 07:50 PM
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| Hi everyone...Lisa...thank you for sharing your story. My daughter will be one next weekend and I get alot of crap from others because she wakes up during the night and wants a bottle (I never nursed). I wil admit that the getting up during the night can get me really p-ed off from time to time....especially since EVERYONE keeps telling me she should be sleeping through the night. Like each of you said, my daughter will go right back to sleep once she is fed too. I keep hearing, "Let her cry it out" she " depends on a bottle to fall asleep". etc. I guess the reality check is this...my child is just normal. Thanks ladies. |
| posted by Heather on 01/21/2009 09:57 PM
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