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| Hi moms...I am a new mother of beautiful 5 month old Victoria. This is my first child and I am 31yrs old and probably worst of all....I am a Registered Nurse, haha. So that combination is what is causing my problem. I have been told that I have PostPartum OCD because of the rituals that I have. I am so busy all the time doing things for the baby that I feel no one else can do for me because they dont do it my way or Im afraid it wont be done properly. Only I can mix her formula, only I can wash and carefully sterilize her bottles. Only I can prepare them for the baby. I dont like for anyone but her daddy to feed her and I usually try not to butt in, but I cant help it. If I dont do my nightly kitchen rituals by 8pm...I start to get anxiety. I dont know how to stop this. When I was the bottles, all the bottles are color coordinated and must be lined up properly and I can not have any of my dishes or sponge anywhere near the baby's bottles. HELP...what do I do. |
| Posted by Arlyn on 02/15/2007 02:15 PM
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So I am not a psychologist or anything but here is what I think. Being obsessive about the small things allows you a sence of control, something you probably had much more of pre baby. It is hard giving up control and fto ollow the needs of the baby/family versus deciding what those needs are. If it is a sence of control & order you desire putting it to use in a hobby that affects you & not your family dynamics. For example: Scrapbooking, you can be really anal about what pictures go in & how to design a page & you don't have to worry about anyone else "doing it wrong" because it's your project & try to let go of the bottle cleaning or one thing about your Kitchen ritual at a time, don't try to drop everything at once, that might make you worry about it too much.
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| posted by Rebecca on 02/19/2007 07:02 PM
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| Thanks so much for your advice...I never even thought of something like a hobby...I think I will take your advice...How cool is that? I do make Diaper Cakes and I have alot of fun obsessing on that, haha. So if you know anyone interested in diaper cakes to buy...let me know please. I will let you know how it goes....well gotta go ritual time...Just kidding. |
| posted by Arlyn on 02/19/2007 10:26 PM
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You might want to join the group "Moms and Dads with Depression" Sally is the creator and very eager to help.
I was also very anal in not letting anyone taking care of my kids but I really did not care who washed their bottles.
My point is to identify the part of your behavior that it is just overprotective and the part is obessive.
Maybe ask your fiancee to wash and sterilize one bottle (under your supervision) so you can try to trust someone else to do the job. If you feel is not getting better seek help.
You are in the medical field and you know better than anyone that mental health is as important as physical one.
Vero |
| posted by Vero on 02/20/2007 10:16 PM
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