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| May sound crazy, but I think Im going through it now. My twin girls are now 21 months and some days I just cant take it. Dont get me wrong, I absolutely adore my girls and would do anything for them, but they drive me crazy! Im 22, and a single mom and we live with my parents. Everyone thinks my life s a piece of cake because of that. We moved here to California from Ohio about 18 mos ago, and although I plan on moving out in 2010, it seems like I'll never be able to afford the type of place that I want for my kids AND be able to pay the bills. That alone worries the hell out of me. On top of that, my kids are wild. I guess not really wild, its just that they're being kids, but sometimes it just seems like its too much. Sometimes I get overwhelmed just coming home from work. When they were babies, everyone said it gets easier as they get older, but that hasnt started yet. When did it start getting easy for everyone else? Especially the single moms. |
| Posted by Keisha on 12/21/2008 12:45 AM
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I COMPLETELY understand your situation!! I am a single mother of 4 children, the youngest being the twins and they are about 2 1/2. I also had to move in with my mother about 10 months ago when I left their father, and we are just now moving into our own place... but b/c my father bought a property and he is renting it to me dirt cheap (he's doing it for the kids) If he didnt give me that option, I dont know what I would be doing right now.
As far as it getting easier as they get older, Im not sure that it really gets easier, but it a different type of stress or difficulty. You know when they were babies, you had to tend to them every time they cried or you tried to feed them both at once, and you were waking up all hours of the night.. well, for me, now they sleep through the night, and they are talking really well, so they can ask for what they want, but they are into everything!! I also work full-time and they are in daycare/preschool. . and when we get home its like I never get a chance to sit down until bedtime.
As for the topic of your post, I dont think it would be post partum depression... probably just a lot of stress. Im pretty sure post partum is due to all the hormones changing and whatnot when you first have a baby. (within the first year) It is possible to be depressed due to all of the stress and frustrations of doing things alone and not knowing what your next step will be. I have felt that way, and thats why I stayed w/ my ex for so long b/c I knew I couldnt afford to take care of our kids by myself.. but eventually it came down to me doing what was best for the kids and myself. . Where do you live? You can send me a message if you want to talk more. I know how you feel. |
| posted by Amy on 12/21/2008 07:26 AM
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| My g/g twins will be 2 in January .Although I am married my dh is gone 5 days a week out of town. Sometimes I feel like a single parent without all the financial burden. I am a stay at home mom and my girls are also into everything. Somedays I just want to run screaming from the house! It doesn't matter how much I clean and pick up it only takes them about 2 minutes to destroy it again. I don't think I would say that it has gotten easier just different from when they were infants. Feeling overwhelmed and stressed and depressed I think is PERFECTLY NORMAL. Maybe you should talk to your Dr. because we all need a littel help sometimes. My thoughts are with you and hope you have a happy holiday season. |
| posted by sunnygirl on 12/22/2008 09:05 AM
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