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Can't be mean, His her daddy. What do I do?

Nikki

I just went to court, Dec 11, thursday. And I finally got my little girl back after two months. The judge order that the two of us each share our little girl, we each get two weeks with her. I don't know when we go back just yet, But when we go back it will be for the divorce/ and who sadie will stay with. I feel bad that all this is going on with our daughter right in the middle of all this. She's only 6 months old, at least shes young and i'm hopen that she'll never remember any of this. Her daddy is a good dad, And a good guy but he just stopping caring for me. Thought that best thing to do for his self was to take our little girl and say that i was a bad mother and never wanted her. But she's was a breastfeed baby for 4 months. And she does nothing but smile and laugh all the time. Happy- Healthy baby. And I never cared or wanted her. Anyways, Here's my question (" Even though he did all this and I have her for now, I want to talk to him and let him know what she's been up to and how she's doing. I want let him call and talk to her.") But should I let him have the contact with her, when he never let me have that chance to talk to her or see her. And what if i'm nice and let him close he could just be trying to make up something else and try and take her away for good. I really want to give him that lttle bite of good faith. But I don't know what he'll do with it. What the best way to do this? Or should I just shut him out and let him do his thing and i'll do mine. Till we go back and the judge says where's shes going to be staying? Thanks, Nikki
Posted by Nikki on 12/14/2008 01:14 AM

Angie

Nikki

How are things going now? I really appreciate your willingness to extend an olive branch to your ex. In the long run, it will be best for the two of you to treat each other with civility. Don't try to match his bad example.

As for him making up stories, just keep very good records. Keep a journal that is specifically for this purpose. Indicate each time you contact him, what the outcome was, etc. Always record if and when either one of you was late picking your daughter up, etc. Record a summary of any altercations you may have.

I hope that things get better for you.

Angie Blackwell, The Parenting Coach, http://www.blackwellfamilyresources.com

posted by Angie on 02/21/2009 05:26 PM

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