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long story short:
fiance lost job in september, hasnt found another one (has looked) and my daughter gets ssi every month for disabilities (she's 2)
once bills are paid with ssi and unemloyment, there is no money left for anything. we get food stamps which barely helps.
we have no gifts for the kids. our 10yr old wants a nintendo ds (which fiance bought with our last 150 bucks) and i want a cozy coupe for our 2yr old. we cant get a loan cause of no jobs (i stay at home). no family t help us. what can we do? we found out about toys for tots too late. no churches will help us this close to christmas.
i dont know what to do cause he figures our 2yr old wont know the difference on christmas morning.
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| Posted by ERIN on 12/12/2008 12:50 PM
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Hi Erin,
We're almost in the same boat. My husband is loosing his job as of Jan.1. His company is going out of business and thankfully gave him 30 days notice. We are thankful for that.
I stay home with an almost 3yr old, and a 1yr old. Thanks to ebay I've taken care of my son by selling stuff we no longer need or they've outgrown. Now that xmas is coming up fast I'm not sure how I'll be able to get something for my little girl in time. We have no cash flow, we're currently in the negative. My husbands CC is over the limit, and mine is $25 away from it's limit. We wont be in the positive until next friday, a week from yesturday and then there's a car payment and bills to be paid! I PRAY that something will happen to help. I've posted alot of outgrown baby gear on craigslist and I'm hoping someone will buy something in time for me to get my 1yr old something. Otherwise,.. I dont know what else I can do besides hit the Salvation Army stores hoping to find something that will suprise her xmas morning!
You can post something on craigslist, I've seen some posts with families in need and I'll tell you, if I had something that would help families with kids I'd give it in a heartbeat!
Maybe you can make some yummy cookies and decorate them with your 2yr old, you know give into all the things that you'd normally say "no" to only because it's christmas? That's my plan B.
I do believe that a 2yr old will know the difference if there is no gift or no special activity for just them on xmas. I'd hate to imagine the reaction or how his feelings maybe hurt. 2yr olds pick up on alot so be creative & wrap anything they can unwrap.
As I told my hubby the other day, this year christmas will be about getting back to the basics, what christmas is all about, family & not gifts.
Like I said, do things you normally would NOT let them do, (within reason) have dessert before dinner, be silly and get in the bath with clothes on, cookies for breakfast etc. be sure to take pictures so you'll have something to look back on. I bet they'll remember this christmas as the most fun rather then the gift they received (but maybe I'm hoping too much?)
Good Luck & keep the faith! |
| posted by Yoni on 12/12/2008 01:14 PM
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| Aww. I'm so sorry to hear that. Have you called all of the churches in your area? I know my mother in law is doing a family through her doctors office she works at. Have you tried to explain it to the churchs? You could also post a note on a board at your supermarket or at stores. I'd call every store and see if they'd beable to help you guys. Thats upsetting if no churches will help you. I'd keep calling and calling everywhere possiable. Good luck. That was a great idea about selling your stuff you don't use anymore. Have a yard sale. You'd get a ton of people looking for x-mas presents this year. I got my stepson stuff because we don't have the money either. Make it fun and the kids would say it's the best x-mas ever. It's not about the presents it's more about giving to people who need it. |
| posted by Kris on 12/12/2008 01:18 PM
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It seems like a lot of people are on hard times. We barely make by at all, my husband only has a part-time job and I stay home with our son. We had to find a place to live in the slums, but thankfully the rent isn't too high now. Now we just have to worry about getting robbed. That is why we spend as much time at my MIL's house as we can, without her getting tired of us. We have Christmas to worry about and furniture for our new place. Thankfully we found a charity where I live that donates furniture that came from hotels. As for Christmas I don't know what we are going to do. Probably just going to act like the presents his grandmother gave him are from us too. We are lucky that he is so young, he will never know the difference.
I agree you should make this day special from the rest do something she isn't normally allowed to do, play games with her, make her princess for a day with a decorated paper crown to match. |
| posted by Alisa on 12/12/2008 02:36 PM
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| Check out freecycle.org and craigslist.com - both might have touys that people are giving away (their kids outgrow, etc). Hope this helps! |
| posted by Cooper's Mommy on 12/12/2008 03:15 PM
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Well its sounds like an easy fix. Just return the Nintendo DS. Its not fair for one child to get a gift valued at $150 and get nothing for the other. $150 will go a long way at discount stores, Salvation Army, thrift stores, yard sales, etc.
If you dont have money for food, you certainly dont need to be buying video game systems.
Has your husband tried getting hired at a fast food restaurant or a convenience store? They are always hiring. I dont know what he was doing before he lost his job, but 3 months is an awfully long time to go without some kind of work. Any job is better then no job, and if he has to work somewhere that he is overqualified until he can find something better, then so be it. |
| posted by Kelly on 12/12/2008 04:11 PM
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| I have to agree with Kelly, I didn't want to say anything, but three months is a long time with out a job. My husband has a BS in Biology and History and can only get part-time work at a temp agency. His brother has a masters in neurology, but he is working as a tester at a video game company making shit pay. They hate that the job market sucks and that they can't find their dream jobs, but they work to make a living. Either your husband or you need to get out a find a job no matter what that job is. Go business to business and get those applications, only those that work hard will make it through these hard times. |
| posted by Alisa on 12/12/2008 04:24 PM
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