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Hi. I am a first time mom. Before I had my son, I had a social life, now, it seems as though no one wants to invite me to anything. I have tried initiating things, and I am usually turned down. So now I am trying to meet other new moms.
Has anyone else experienced this social isolation? If so, how did you deal with it? |
| Posted by Allison on 06/13/2007 06:17 PM
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Allison, you are not alone! My husband and I had a very active social life before our daughter was born and now we rarely get invited to anything. Our daughter is now 14 months old and people have loosened up a little bit, but we still don't get invited as much as we did before. I'm sorry that I don't have a solution for you. I just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone.
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| posted by Cinda on 06/13/2007 07:26 PM
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| My husband and I are going through the same thing. The worst part is that many of our friends who stopped calling us have kids too. So they must know what it's like to be new parents. But apparently they have short memories. I feel isolated sometimes. Sorry, I don't know what to do about it. I even talked to one of my friends about it and she said that's ridiculous, nothing's changed. Now I find out she's having a get together at her house this Saturday and I wasn't invited, so obviously something's changed. Do people think that if you have a new baby you can't have a social life? |
| posted by Marcia on 06/13/2007 08:13 PM
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| One of the toughest changes for me as a first time mom was to adjust to the social lifestyle change. I still see my frinds(thanks to my sons grandparents) but they call much less and I have missed out on things too. I find that friends in similar situations stick together. For example, I have become closer to the friends with children and I can sense my friends without kids have alligned themselves. I enjoy activities for myself, including my yoga class and softball. I am hoping to join a group with my son and meet other moms. Sounds like you are doing everything you can and the summer is probably the best time of year to meet new people and reconnect with your friends. Good Luck! |
| posted by Lori on 06/13/2007 09:17 PM
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| Hi Allison, As the other mom's have said. You are not alone. I've just joined meetup.com and have been to several mom/baby/kid get togethers at parks, pools, the beach etc. It has been nice to meet some new friends with babies as well. It has been good for both of us to get out and meet new mom's in the same boat. Dad's sometimes join in as well. It may be a good place to find some local groups that meet up for play dates. Everyone I have met has been wonderful. |
| posted by Charlene on 06/13/2007 09:24 PM
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Hi Allison,
I am experiencing that as well and it is really tough because I am a single mom as well. I am having a really hard time because I don't even have a partner to help me with the baby. I guess that you just have to reach out to different types of people. I don't know what your religious background is but I am contemplating joining a church in order to meet other young like-minded people. Best of luck! |
| posted by Jamie on 06/13/2007 10:57 PM
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| Hi Allison. As you can see from the other moms' responses, you are not alone. Before I had my son, I was in school and worked. I was always busy so I never had a lot of time to have a social life. Now I have a young baby at home and I work four days a week. We still get together with our best friends, who also have kids. I find it very hard to get together with my other friends. I think sometimes they just think you might have too much going on. I would suggest finding other moms who live near you. It's a lot easier to make new friends with other moms because they understand exactly what you are going through. In addition, you could invite your friends to do something with you instead of waiting for them to invite you. |
| posted by Monique on 06/14/2007 02:04 AM
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