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| Ladies ladies ladies. You all are so blessed to be married already as for me I need some help a word of encouragement, or just some wisdom or something. Yall know I am in love with my Kerry. Most recently, I made a trip to Oklahoma for Memorial Day weekend, we had a family gathering. I got to spend a little time with him and he was such a gentleman. We didn't mess around or anything it was perfect the time we spent was great and it made me love him more. When I got back to Florida I would call him every night before bed and we would talk for a little bit it was cool. But now when I call him to talk to him he doesn't answer the phone and it drives me absolutly crazy. He doesn't even email me so much anymore. Although I did send him an email prayer request for my mother and he quickly responded in agreement with me. I know that he has a lot going on with his job he works long hours and he is trying to stay focused (like I encourage him to do). But I need to talk and I prefer to talk to the man I love. Am I being selfish? Do I expect to much? Communication is just one of the keys to a healthy relationship right? I know guys don't think like we do they pretty much focus on one thing at a time unlike us we are "Multi-taskers". I try to be understanding and not point the finger I know that I have to examine myself and not point the finger. I tell you God has exposed so much stuff in me that still needs to come out. I know that I can be very impatient at times, selfish, and I still struggle with the spirit of rejection and I have asked the Lord to deliver me from those things. Kerry is truly a man of God and like us all he is a work in progress. He hasn't got to the point were he is suggesting that we pray together but I believe he will get there. I believe that the man should take the lead in the relationship and I don't want to take that form him. There is just so much I could say I just really don't know anything. Eventhough I know he loves me and has shown me in so many ways that he wants to be with me I just need my position in his life to be more defined like I want to know that I am not in this alone it take two yall know. I feel real insignificant right now. I'm not even sure if I have a right to feel that way. And should I tell him that? I am sure us being so far apart is not helping either but I am not going to let anyone tell me a long distance relationship can't work the devil is a liar, What should I do? |
| Posted by Lisa on 06/13/2007 11:06 AM
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Lisa, there is so much i would like to share with you. If you would like my testimony feel free to email me.
How long have you two been dating? Now i am not trying to get in your business, but is marriage on hold for now or is this something you have discussed? I have been in a five yr relationship in my past where all i wanted was to settle down and have a family. In the end i pushed him into it. But God had no hand in it and he corrected me as family was not what my husband wanted, but he did not want to lose me either.
I am now in a relationship with a fellow christian who is a wonderful man and father. We agreed when we were dating that our marriage could not make it in today's society without a continuing relationship with God and fellow Christians.
Also when we were dating i told him that he should have an idea after a yr or so if i was a person he wanted to marry. My point in saying this is to tell you not to sell yourself short and pray pray pray about this. You may need to have a talk with him and let him know what you need and expect from your relationship-this is not taking "his role" but a part of discovering if this is the partner God has chosen for you.
I don't know if i've helped or not but i will pray for you tonight and tha God reveals his will for this relationship clearly to you. God Bless! |
| posted by Andrea R. on 06/13/2007 04:57 PM
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| Thank you so much Andrea and yes i would love to hear your testimony. I have know Kerry for about nine years our relationship is a lot more serious now than it was in the beginning. We have a lot of history and i will go into more detail later. You have given me a lot to think about. He should know in a year wheter he wants to marry me or not. We have known eachother for this long and I am not trying to waste my time or his. My prayer and his has been Lord let your will be done, I don't try to force him into anything. I want him to be all that God wants him to be whether I am in his life or not but I do have a desire to be with this man. It would be great to talk about this further in an email. Thank you so much. This is what I need wise counsel. |
| posted by Lisa on 06/13/2007 06:56 PM
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| Lisa I am glad i gave u food for thought as the saying goes, but i by no means want u to think that my way is the only way. I just wanted to share with you a life lesson that i learned from my situation. But i have to say that 9yrs is a long time to date...especially if you want and are looking forward to having children and a family. I had my first at 34yo and while i do not regret waiting for my DH i have now, i believe that pregnancy gets difficult as you get older. Not just getting pregnant, but the actual pregnancy. I had many health problems with my second at 36. Just something else to consider, although i imagine you have. |
| posted by Andrea R. on 06/13/2007 10:34 PM
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| I left you a messege in your mailbox check it out. Thanks Andrea |
| posted by Lisa on 06/14/2007 08:45 AM
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