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| Posted by April on 12/04/2008 03:51 PM
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| I think it kind of depends on the custody situation. But as long as you have custody, I think you can make the decisions. My daughter's dad has asked only once to have her on a holiday. It was Easter, and he was spending it with his (then) fiance's family so I said he could. His wife is very kind to our daughter, so I like when she is around when my daughter spends time with him. But if she hadn't been in his life yet, I wouldn't have let him have my daughter for Easter. I really think you should call the shots here. |
| posted by Chels on 12/04/2008 04:28 PM
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| posted by April on 12/04/2008 07:05 PM
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| I always included my baby's dad in any "firsts" if he asked to be invlolved. I would just limit it to opening presents though, otherwise what else is he missing of her "first christmas" Does he need to see her eat christmas dinner and visit with family? No. I always did it for my daughter, I don't want her to look back at pictures and not see him there and find out it was because of me that he missed out. |
| posted by Angie on 12/07/2008 11:32 AM
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| posted by April on 12/07/2008 04:01 PM
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| exactly! How long will he be there? a half hour? small price to pay for your baby not to blame you for a lifetime! let him sink himself later on, like you said...he may not want to be around later, but make it HIS choice so you can tell her that the door was always open on your end. just make it clear to your ex that he can only stay for a bit to get some pictures and see her open gifts but then he's outa there! Hope you have a Merry Xmas. (btw, I am going through the same thing, except I am driving 15 hours in the car with my ex to spend Xmas with HIS family because otherwise his parents won't get to see my daughter for christmas at all! It's because he won't take her alone and when they invited me w/o him, he got mad and invited himself along. what we won't do for our kids right?) |
| posted by Angie on 12/07/2008 05:31 PM
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| This is my son's first christmas. my family celebrates christmas on christmas eve, and I will have him. but on christmas day, his dad is taking him even though his family celebrates the night before as well. next year we will switch. fair is fair. |
| posted by Amber on 12/12/2008 07:08 PM
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My childrens father and I arent "together" either.. and this is our first Christmas not living together. I am renting a place from my father and he doesnt want my Childrens father there at all, so we are going to his house for Christmas so we can BOTH be there when the kids open their gifts. I dont know what the rest of the day will be like, but if his family wants to see the kids we will all go. (his vehicle doesnt fit 4 car seats)..Most of my family will be in another city 2 hrs away, and we are doing 'christmas' the day before at my dads and the day after at my brothers house.
I think that you should really do it for your daughter. I dont know how old she is, but like Angie said, if he is willing to be there and put forth an effort, then I would let him. I dont think I could ever tell their father, No, you cant see your kids...even if it wasnt a holiday....(unless he was just absent from their lives) |
| posted by Amy on 12/17/2008 12:24 PM
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| Today's modern families are much different from the traditional ones of the past. Christmas especially has always been a very difficult one for my family as there are just too many people that need to be involved and too many parts of the family that just don't get along with the others. Thus, we've always divided our family celebrations. My ex has already had his "Christmas" with our daughter last weekend with his family and I am having mine on Christmas day with my family. My husband has never really cared much for firsts or any such thing. I guess I"m lucky that way. |
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