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HELP!!!!
I am the proud mother of 3 girls (12, 5, 19months) step mom to 9 year old girl and a brand new proud mom to a boy!
Our baby boy was born in October and wow it already is a difference. He is growing faster than the girls did, and pees on me all the time.
Even though I am a veteran mom I feel at a loss with a boy. My husband and I have already began to disagree. He says I baby him too much and I will make him into a momma's boy. I say that boys need the same amount of love as a girl.
I need advice and support from all you veteran boy raisers... in how to raise the perfect man!
Do I really need to raise him differently than I do the girls? |
| Posted by Lisa on 12/04/2008 11:36 AM
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Raise him just the same! He definitely needs the same amount of love and attention as your girls did. I have two boys and they're a fun handful. You definitely shouldn't worry about babying him too much.
I got peed on all the time with my first boy, but not so much with my second. Don't worry, you'll get the hang of a boy too.
Enjoy.
Kat |
| posted by Kat on 12/05/2008 10:40 AM
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Definitely raise him with the same amount of love as you give the girls. I shower my boy all the time with love and he is only 22 months, but he is a very self-confident little boy. And believe me, he is not a momma's boy. Yes he is attached, but in a healthy way. And he loves playing with other kids.
Bottom line: give him a lot of love, or you will end up with more problems than a momma's boy. |
| posted by Bonnie on 12/05/2008 10:40 PM
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| You should raise him the same as your others. I think that even when you raise them the same that boys are just different than girls. My boy has always been more independent and seemed to physically develop faster than my girl. The first few years are very important and he needs that mother's love and attention. |
| posted by Tara on 12/08/2008 08:41 AM
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Thank you so much for all the words of encouragement! I will not lie, I baby him as much as I do my girls and now I can do so with out the guilt. I kept telling my husband that it didnt matter that he was a boy, now I can let him read all your comments too!
Thank you again
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| posted by Lisa on 12/08/2008 12:15 PM
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| Definitely raise your boy exactly like you did your girls. If you can buy the book "Real Boys" by William Pollack, PhD. It says that the reason that boys today are so messed up in the head is because their parents wanted to treat them different than girls. For this reason the boys were supposed to keep all those emotions inside then later have high rates of depression. The book maintains that mothers are emotionally letting go of their boys at a much earlier age than girls and it really messes them up. Anyway the book will help explain it all. J |
| posted by joanie on 12/09/2008 03:41 PM
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| Lisa I know exaclty what you are going through. I have a 3 yr old girl and a 5 mo boy. Already my fiance is wanting to set ways on how we raise them and it is totally different. I do have to admit that he holds him a lot more then I do because it is his first kid. But I do not see how it is fair to raise them differently just because of their gender It will just make one or both of them resent you. So treat your son the same as your girls it will be better as they grow up. |
| posted by Becky on 12/13/2008 11:37 PM
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| right on! Raise him the same. Teach him to love and respect women. He will turn out to be an awesome husband and father if you do! My son is a momma's boy and I love it, wouldn't have it any other way.. Boys are great. Don't get me wrong I have a daughter also, but they are both totally different. |
| posted by Suzanne on 12/15/2008 09:11 AM
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