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Husbands, your relationship with your wife will powerfully shape how your sons will view marriage in the future! Is it vibrant and fun? Or is it tedious and stale? Do you take time out to escape the stress of everyday life and remind your wife why you married her - for companionship!
Wives, your relationship with your husband will powerfully shape how your daughters will view marriage in the future! Is it peaceful and romantic? Or is it tense and full of conflict? Do you take time out to escape the stress of everyday life and remind your husband why you married him – for companionship!
Think back about why you chose to get married. Was it for sex, money, or power? Most likely not! The number one reason why people marry is for companionship. We all want someone we know we can trust to love us and stay with us for the rest of our lives. It can become very lonely, for most people, to live by themselves. God gave Eve to Adam and walked with them in the garden of Eden (Genesis 3). Do you still go on consistent walks with your spouse and invite God to join you?
Companionship should be the result of two becoming one flesh. Song of Songs repeatedly states: “My lover is mine and I am his.” We can’t allow ourselves to become so busy with our vocation, or with our children, that we neglect our first calling: Husband and Wife. A husband and wife need at least two vacations of a couple nights duration – away from the children – each year to re-connect and recharge the romance and commitment to companionship - especially when the children are young. Your children need to see your commitment to one another.
I understand it can be difficult to schedule “couple” time away without the kids for many; however, difficult does not make it any less necessary. Find a way! Fly the Grandparents in. Swap trips with friends from church. Loan your children to parents at your church who no longer have young children to enjoy. Hire a responsible babysitter you trust to live at your house. Move closer to the Grandparents or invite the Grandparents to move closer to you. Just stop making excuses! Believe it or not, God can ensure the safety of your children while the two of you are away for a couple of nights. Is your companionship a priority? Prove it!
I believe that the foundation is the start of a healthy marriage, the fundamentals sustain the marriage day in and day out, and the companionship keeps the marriage fresh and exciting. Can you think of any practical reason why a marriage must become stale? I'm changing; my wife is changing. What is stale about that? Many of the exciting marriages I have witnessed involve people who have been married 20, 30, 40, 50 years.
If you are committed to loving your spouse and spending time with him/her, why not enjoy it? Develop common interests; discover what makes your spouse’s eyes sparkle with joy - this does not always require great amounts of money to be spent. The gift of marriage is just that - a gift from God. If we are children of the King, we become a prince and a princess. Treat your wife as a princess. Treat your husband as a prince.
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| Posted by David on 11/28/2008 06:38 PM
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| David, I'm not discrediting what you have to say but do you have any learning or credentials. Do you spend time daily in God's word? How long have you been married? Have you been divorced? How old are your children--what are they like? I want to be in a Godly group but I want to make sure the leader is Godly and follows what the Lord says |
| posted by on 11/29/2008 08:53 PM
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I whole heartedly agree!
& Beth you don't need to ask all those questions... when someone talks about anything that God says, its best to look it up and talk it over with God. You are right you have to be careful who you let lead you... but this is just a discussion board, don't seek him for spiritual guidance... but his suggestions (after you confirm them with the bible) can be a real blessing!
My hubby and I are not in the position to have "couple vacations" just yet... but we are fully commited to the call of marriage and its purpose to one another and our children and children's children... and we are enjoying all the benefits of it! |
| posted by Candice on 11/30/2008 01:54 AM
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| Candice, I believe I should ask questions of someone who could be a spiritual leader in my life. There are a lot of "false prophets" who lead us astray even when we have the best of intentions. I do also look to my Bible to see if it agrees but its easy to misinterpret sometimes especially if you think someone is telling the truth. Thanks David for your answers--I think I understand better where your coming from and hope that God is blessing your projects. Now I'm going to convince my husband to join the group:) |
| posted by on 11/30/2008 09:22 PM
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True about false prophets, but the Holy Spirit won't. That's exactly why I suggested researching it yourself instead of relying on someones answers to base your decisions... but it was just my opinion, my opinion means ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!
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| posted by Candice on 11/30/2008 10:42 PM
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I just want to let you know that i do agree with you . I Have been married for 6 years and this is my second marriage and i have 2 children one from my first marriage and my 2 year old from this wonderful marriage. My husband and i try to have a date night once every month and it helps allot. And It has made our relationship as husband and wife strong. If only i would of done this with my first marriage. Thank you Star |
| posted by star on 02/26/2009 02:28 PM
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