|
|
|
|
|
|
 |
|
|
|
|
| Single Parents |
| Public online group |
|
|
| |
|
|
| hello. new to this site. been a single mom almost 18 years now. I have no regrets even though it's been hard. I'm fortunate that I have made enough of the right decisions that my kids have turned out to be upstanding and outstanding. I see my friends with kids the same ages and thank God I'm not in their shoes and pray to God to save their kids from the troubles they have encountered and keep them from new ones. I hope I can pass on some good advice to anyone in need of it. If there are any single parents in Tampa that would like to get together and share stories sometime, I'm gain for it. I used to stress about my kids and being single, but I have since grown to accept and even embrace being single. Some guys I've dated have even gotten jealous of my closeness with my kids and resented the fact that they ALWAYS come first. So now I just assert all my energy to my kids and work. |
| Posted by on 11/25/2008 05:03 AM
|
|
|
|
| |
|
|
| It's nice to hear that you are happy to be single. I feel that way mostly too. I have two daughters. They are my world. Once I read that some of the guys you've dated have gotten jealous of your closeness to your kids... well, I feel that way a lot. I haven't dated much, but it seems like none of the men I've dated have understood that my children come first. I'll be single for the rest of my life if I have to be. I know I'm never alone. |
| posted by Chels on 12/02/2008 08:14 PM
|
|
|
|
|
| ;) |
| posted by April on 12/02/2008 08:22 PM
|
|
|
|
|
| thanks. the worst one was my most recent...we were best friends for 20 years so he should have been the most accepting and understanding. This is the first time in my life where I truly, undoubtedly am happy to be single. I have realized I love being a mom more than I desire being with a man. Don't get me wrong, I love the attention and affection of a man, but sometimes the demands in return are just not worth it. My 17yo daughter is more mature and independent than alot of grown men I've met. I am totally content as a single mom. |
| posted by on 12/02/2008 09:48 PM
|
|
|
|
|
| to April...I'm not sure what advice you could use at the moment but I have plenty on several subjects. but for starters on a 3 month old, I don't how you talk to him/her but it should never be baby talk. A lot of people don't realize how much that hinders the child's communication. I learned that when my daughter was about 2 or 3 and was proud that I never talked baby with her. I always spoke clearly to her and she spoke full sentences before she turned 1. Not saying all kids will do this because my son did not. But once he did start talking he wouldn't stop and he is highly intelligent for a 14yo now. Another key ingredient to raising kids is keeping lines of communication open. I always believed (and it worked) that if they are old enough to ask, they are old enough for the truth. Creative truth depending on their age, but it has to be truth. I have been very observant since a child as to how other parents are with their children. And believe me, I've learned alot!! Feel free to email me with any questions you have and I will do my best to answer them. I couldn't ask for my kids to be any better cause that would make them perfect. I don't want to sound conceited, but it is true. They are even better than I was at their age and I was a good kid. Not to say I have not made mistakes as a parent, but I did what I had to to quickly correct them. So good luck and God Bless. |
| posted by on 12/02/2008 10:11 PM
|
|
|
|
|
| I'm not sure of your situation as far as the father of your children and their relationship with him. But my second daughter doesn't know her dad, and I would rather she didn't and vice versa. She is only one year old, but I know the day will come when she will ask about him. Do you have any advice on that? |
| posted by Chels on 12/03/2008 11:02 AM
|
|
|
|
|
| ;) |
| posted by April on 12/03/2008 03:49 PM
|
|
|
|
|
| I don't think there is anything wrong with that. I've always talked to my four year old as if she was just a friend of mine and we were having a conversation. And yes, I admit that I have at times done the baby talk to my girls. I have a one year old, and when it's just her and me shopping I talk to her like a friend too. I ask her opinions and tell her what we're going to buy for dinner, etc. I've read too that it is important to talk to your child no matter what age. Talk to them about everything you're doing, even if it seems silly to talk about it to a baby. I think you're doing great! |
| posted by Chels on 12/03/2008 03:55 PM
|
|
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
|
| |  |
| |
|
|
|
