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| I need some advise. My two year old acts out when we go anywhere away from home. When we go to the grocery store either i am frustared and embarrassed by the time we leave or I just leave in the middle of a shopping trip on the verge of tears. when we go out to eat she doesn't want to sit she yells out for no reason. I am at my wits end and I don't know what to do. I am to the point where I don't want to go out in public with her. If anyone has any advise I would greatly appreciate it!! |
| Posted by Tanesha on 11/21/2008 08:19 PM
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| Tanesha welcome to the toddler stage, now the thing with the toddlers is that (in my experience with a highly active boy) they are nt happy with just sitting around not doing anything, like in the cart at the grocery store. Things need to be way more interactive and since I am not sure what you are having your daughter do when she is at the store or a restaurant these things may not work for you. Anyway, I had this problem with my son at the grocery store so I had to start allowing him to walk along side of the cart (not recommended when you are in a hurry) or sit in the cart and I hand the groceries to him and tell him to help me put them in the basket. If you are only going for a few things I also recommend taking a basket and having them "help"carry it and putting things in the cart. You can also play many games with them at the grocery store like name that item or a color. I guess it would help if we knew what you had already tried so we are not giving you the same things over and over again. |
| posted by Kyleen on 11/21/2008 11:19 PM
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| I have tried letting her help put the things in the cart, but she throws them out i've tried letting her walk beside the cart but then i spend most of my time chasing her aroundi've tried games and songs it just seems like she knows when we are out among other people and she just shows out. |
| posted by Tanesha on 11/22/2008 08:00 PM
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My daughter as a younger baby was a bit harder to take out on errands, but she's somewhat better now.
I have found that it works best (for us) to make sure she's not tired or hungry, which means we always go to the grocery store or other important errands soon after breakfast. I do keep a few snacks in the diaper bag so that if we're out longer than planned, it can tide her over till we get home and can fix a meal. I try to avoid doing stuff too close to naptime as well, because tiredness can make my daughter a real stinker (I use the term affectionately).
Boredom is the other thing that will trigger complaints from her that can deteriorate into a tantrum. I try to keep a toy or something in my purse for her because by the time we hit checkout her patience is wearing thin. In a pinch, I let her hold a card from my purse (not a credit card, it's a pet store card so she likes the animals on it). It doesn't always work, but most of the time it does for us.
Sometimes she just gets antsy, like she needs to get down and run around (usually happens when we go out to eat as a family LOL that's just my luck). So in that case, it's good if she has time to run her legs around a little before having to sit still for a period of time in the high chair, shopping cart, etc.
I'm not sure if any of this helps, and you've probably tried it all, it's just what we've done with our daughter. |
| posted by Bethany on 11/23/2008 12:31 AM
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| I always carry a bag of goldfish with me, and a drink of water or milk too. Also, little toys are a savior too! My son went through a terrible phase of not sitting in the shopping cart, although he is much better now, but for a few months I would put him in his stroller and we would shop like that. The phase will pass if you can hang in there. I do find that even though he will sit in a shopping cart now - it has to be one of the kid racing cars though, not a regular cart :-) I have to keep him busy, I tell him to point out numbers and letters and colors of items and ask him what number aisle we are on. It keeps him busy!!!! |
| posted by Catrina on 11/25/2008 09:30 AM
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I can totally relate to you Tanesha. I have 4 small ones and I dread going anywhere in public with them. Its soo hard to take them to the grocery store alone. Fortunately they have come out w/ the carts w/ the car in front, but since I have 4, they ALL want to ride in the car and only 2 can go in at a time. I will usually let my 4 yr old walk, so that is his 'special thing' to do, since the smaller ones are in the car. But its still a struggle, and Im so focused on what they're doing, I end up forgetting what I need or I just get the necessities and get out. I hate being "that" mom that everyone looks at in the store like I cant control my kids.
Im wondering now, if its b/c we dont go out much, so they dont know how to act in that environment. Maybe if I take them to stores more often they will learn what is expected of them. (but im not sure Im up for the task of taking all 4 of them more often) If I take one or 2 of them, they are usualy ok, but when its all 4, its just too much.They usually arent that bad anymore when we go out to eat, but still have their moments.
Sorry I cant really offer any suggestions, only hugs. Im sure it gets better, but its hard right now. |
| posted by Amy on 11/30/2008 01:05 PM
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| My son started that about two months ago and we have literally stopped going out to eat. I feel the same way you do and it got to the point that even my husband lost his cool (which he never does with our son). So we either make trips very short and at a time in the day he is the happiest, run errands while the other parent watches him or go to places that are kid friendly (with play areas). That may not be much help, but I know the feeling! |
| posted by Jamaica on 12/06/2008 02:55 PM
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