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Hi everyone, I just joined this group because my boyfriend and I have been talking more and more recently about marriage and our future together. To be perfectly honest with you all, as I have been with him, I am terrified to be married to a traveling musician. His band is not touring yet, but they are planning to in the near future. They are a very successful cover band, playing from palm beach gardens florida all the way down to miami at least 3 times per week and always every weekend (although they attempt to take 1 weekend off per month for the sanity of the wives and girlfriends they frequently get booked by "a great opportunity"). I have always been very supportive of the band (we have been together 1 1/2 years and the band has been together 2 years). I want him to do what he loves, but at the same time I feel I will always be the one giving up things, compromising, and maybe not even having children (which I have wanted my whole life) just because I'd be too afraid to have them on my own with him gone several months at a time. I will be a working professional as well and will not be able to go on tour. We have talked about it at great length and sometimes I feel like I can do it and other times I am not sure I can. I love him so much and want to do anything I have to to stay with him. But I just don't want to get into a marriage and then hate the situation. I just joined this group so that when I have a melt down or certain thoughts I can discuss them with girls who know exactly what I am going through. Hope to make lots of pen pals! Rowan~
Posted by Cara on 11/20/2008 09:00 PM \| edit \| delete

Keep good communication. Make sure you are clear what his plans are. What he discusses with the band may not be the same discussions with you.
posted by Chelsea on 11/24/2008 01:36 PM \| edit \| delete

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