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| We had this problem. We started with just having her fall asleep with us and then moving her to her own bed. I also keep either music or a fan on during the night so that the hum would help keep her asleep. Soon she was able to sleep in her own bed. Good Luck! |
| posted by Jessica on 11/18/2008 08:37 AM
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| no help here, mine sleeps with me also... Though, he got up at 2:30 this morning when I got up to go get me some tylenol and then he wanted to play until about 5am this morning. I tried to go back to sleep but, he kept pointing at my nose and slapping my cheak.. And of course he is asleep as we speak. |
| posted by Suzanne on 11/18/2008 08:45 AM
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| michelle, yeah, i cant be much help either.my son sleeps with me too. i think it mentally helps him at night with his gerd problem. |
| posted by teresa on 11/18/2008 08:55 AM
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My daughter was the same way. She wanted to be in my bed and she would be fine. If she was in her bed, she constantly woke up asking for a drink. My situation is a little different b/c we've been staying with my mother for several months and Im sharing a room with my children while we're here. I just made her lay in her bed, which for right now is right next to mine. She would cry and scream, but she has to learn that she has her own bed and she has to sleep in it. Those are the rules. I would get up and give her a drink if she woke up, and then put her back into HER bed. I guess she is maturing b/c she rarely wakes up anymore. She will sleep in her bed all night. We are moving into our own place in 3 weeks so she might try to regress a little, but its really up to the parent to enforce what we want done. If you would rather sleep through the night, than make her sleep in her bed, its up to you. I used to just let her sleep with me b/c I was soo tired and didnt want to deal w/ the screaming. . but she is 27 months now, and I dont plan on letting her sleep with me anymore. Its going to be a big transition when we move, but they have to know who the boss is, and they have to have structure.
Every situation and child is different. . but they all need to know you arent going to give in. Consistency is key.
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| posted by Amy on 11/18/2008 09:15 AM
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Michelle,
First and foremost, does it bother you? If it doesn't bother you, then don't worry. Eventually she will grow up and be gone and you will wish she would climb back into bed with you. If it is not okay with you and you want her out of your bed, do it gently. Don't make her cry for hours and hours, just because you need to prove your dominance over someone who depends on you for everything. She is still a baby, she wants her mommy and doesn't understand why she can't sleep with you. She wants to be close to you, that is an extremely good thing. Our three year old (well next month she'll be three) still sleeps with us. I will not change the sleeping arrangement, no matter how much it may bother me at times. She is telling me and my husband she still needs to feel us, be close to us and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Our other daughter is ten months old and doesn't like to be in the bed with us. We have tried and she sleeps better in her crib and likes it better in there. It kinda makes me sad. We actually bought a king size bed when I was seven months pregnant for her, expecting her to be in our bed. I know that in her life there will be times when I must be an enforcer and create punishments and set the rules and keep to them. However, at 35 months old how many rules should she have? She can make her choices and they may or may not have consequences. We have simple rules in our house. She is not allowed to jump on my furniture, (she can on her bed), she is not allowed to color on the walls or other places than paper, she must use her manners and help pick up her stuff. Some things to are safety violations and can never happen, playing in the street, playing in the car, etc. That being said, we recieve compliments on her behavior where ever we go. People can't believe she is so thoughtful, nice, and well behaved. She recently thanked the ER Dr. after she received her first set of stitches, I mean come on what kid does that??? I know I have started rambling on and on, but I FIRMLY believe children are precious gifts who need guidance every so often, but need us to understand they need us more than they realize and we as parents have the DUTY to always be there!!! |
| posted by Shanna on 11/18/2008 01:00 PM
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| Well said Shanna!! Totally agree. with my son sleeping with me, I love it and wouldn't change it.. He is my last child so, I try and charish it all because as you say they grow up and move away. Time goes by to fast, don't make them grow up too fast. My daughter use to sleep with me and now she is 8 yrs old and sleeps in her own bed. I loved it when she slept with me. She is getting too big too fast and I don't want my son too. |
| posted by Suzanne on 11/18/2008 01:40 PM
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| I'm not sure I agree with letting your toddler or baby sleep with you. We are going through the same thing with our 27month old son. He has slept great (in his own room and crib) since birth NOW he is waking at night (sometimes 3 times), won't fall asleep without me at least in the room, wants to be rocked all the time and has been resisting naps. I have always felt very proud of myself for enforcing good sleeping habits, nightime routine, accurate bedtimes and ALWAYS a nap- no matter what. I always enforced these things thinking that it would always pay off for us in the long run- not the case I guess.... So for now, I am stuck getting up to soothe him at night until this stage passes (it has already been a month). Believe me, I would love nothing more than to put him into bed with me in the middle of the night and hold him tight until he falls back asleep in my arms just as he did when he was a baby- BUT something in my gut tells me that I will only make things worse. Every article and book you read says not to let your child sleep with you.... its not even considered quality time b/c you are asleep, its considered neutral and/or frustrating time b/c sleep is disrupted. I go into his room when he wakes, I don't pick him up and I don't rock him, but instead ask him to lay down. I cover him up, wipe his tears, rub his back or head for a moment and leave. Sometimes I do this several times before I end up sitting in his room until he falls back asleep. Sorry that I can't offer more concrete advice, but I thought it would be comforting to know that many others are dealing with the same issue!! good luck and hang in there.... by the way- could it be her molars? |
| posted by Amy on 11/18/2008 04:05 PM
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| I too am having the same problem. I lay with my my 17 month old until he falls asleep. I try to keep him on schedule with a 7:00 bath and get him bed no later than 8:30. He wakes up 2 to 3 times during the night. On the third time I normally just crawl into his twin bed with him, so this is where I wake up every morning. I don't know what to do to have him sleep all night. Cry it out is not an option for me. I am torn between finding a solution and enjoying my my snuggle buddy. |
| posted by April on 11/18/2008 11:27 PM
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| When my 15 mo. old was little, I breastfed then moved him to his bed once asleep (unless I fell asleep 1st!!). Then hubby & I started a routine of putting him in bed & telling him to "read or play & that we would check on him in a few min." We only give him quiet toys like soft books & stuffed animals. One of us would check on him periodically but he usually falls asleep in 10-20 min. Occasionally, he will whine or cry out but goes right back to sleep on his own. When he doesn't (if changing diaper or soothing doesn't work), we put him in bed with us. Right now, my son is too young to communicate the reason why he can't go to sleep so I don't think there is anything wrong with him sleeping w/us. I personally do not agree w/ cry-out method - it's cruel in my opinion. |
| posted by Shannon on 11/19/2008 12:41 AM
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