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| Posted by April on 11/17/2008 08:50 PM
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| April, I have been in your situation. I made the decision and slept with him time after time and when I thought that we were working things out to where there might be a future, he decided to stop all of that and get with another girl. I was crushed and everything went down hill after that. He took out daughter and would not return her until I took him to court. So I suggest that you be careful. There are always toys you can get to get you through util you meet someone new. Even though you are a single mom the world is not over and you will meet someone new that will love you and your daughter. I did and cant be happier. Just hang in there. |
| posted by Becky on 11/18/2008 01:32 AM
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| I think you're fine. I mean obviously its not the most ideal situation and itd be easy for everyone to say, "noo don't do it, its a bad idea" but like you said... we are only human. |
| posted by carly on 11/18/2008 12:33 PM
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| posted by April on 11/18/2008 04:41 PM
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| I have to say that if you have ANY feelings for him, you might want to make sure there are healthy boundaries. I'm not saying you are, but this is screaming co-dependant as loud as it can. Realistically, if it happens he now has everything he wants, he gets the good stuff and doesn't even have to respect monogamy! I made, what I refer to as a mistake, when I kept my ex-wife around afterwards. It might be different because of the dynamics. I thought, sure she's here and wants it! Well, as soon as I trusted her, she would lie and do all of hte crazy stuff again. Singles sites and masturbation would have probably saved me a little heartache. That's my experience. |
| posted by David on 11/22/2008 07:53 AM
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| posted by April on 11/24/2008 12:14 PM
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| To me it sounds like you need counseling- there are much bigger issues here. If you can't restrain yourself from having sex there is a problem. There are many people who are "human" getting over any desires and staying celibate. I used to think I was a person who needed sex, which is exactly what put me in the position as a single mom but now have gone 2 years without it....and am much happier in the process. Set boundaries and stick to them. What would you want to show your child as an example? |
| posted by Abbey on 11/24/2008 01:35 PM
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I totally understand where you are coming from. I am in a similar situation with my childrens father... but I have realized that if I do give in to that, then he seems to think everything is
'0k' and its not. We have A LOT of issues and cannot be together. Trust issues, respect issues the whole nine.. so also, if I sleep with him, its telling him its ok to disrespect me and to continue doing what he's doing b/c I'll still give him what he wants.. Not anymore!! We havent been together in over a month, and he's begging. I have to do whats right for me and my kids and our situation. |
| posted by Amy on 11/24/2008 03:04 PM
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| posted by April on 11/25/2008 03:39 PM
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