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Thank you Katie, Shauna and Amanda for your comments. There just seems like so much is happening that I don't know if I feel numb or still in shock with my boyfriends behavior. He claims to have slept with his ex-wife only twice but who knows. I went to get tested for STDs and unfortunately it came back positive with chlamydia. They called me yesterday and I went to get treated today. I was even more mad I guess. Luckly chlamydia is not passed through breastmilk but there are others that are passed like HIV and i think the other one is gonorrea, not sure. The HIV test was negative but they said I have to retest because if there was any infection that occurred within less than three months it will not show positive results. I am still scared but I am praying to God that we don't have it. It is so frustrating to not only be dealing with the emotional issues but now also the health issues. Please always get checked because with men you just dont know what to expect. Here I was thinking I had an exclusive relationship and instead it was a party of three or who knows maybe more.
I honestly dont think going back with him is a possibility. He has hurt us so much that I don't think I could ever trust him again. My son and I don't deserve to be in danger of catching Aids or any other illness because he can keep it in his pants. He begs and says he prays but I think its a little too late.
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| Posted by marie on 11/12/2008 02:06 AM
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| Run!!! You and your son deserve better. What kind of role model is he to your son if he treats the mother of his child without an ounce of respect. He is playing roulette not only with his life but yours too (and your son's). My ex-husband and I divorced when our son was 5 months old. Because he was a liar, a drunk and a cheater. It's one thing to hurt me but I will never allow anyone to hurt my son. You don't want to be in a relationship with someone you can't trust. Every time he's 5 minutes late, you will wonder. It isn't worth it. Relationships are built on trust. He has broken it and there is no way of you ever trusting him 100% again. You deserve so much better. I will keep you in my prayers too. And I'm hear if you need to talk/vent/cry/scream/whatever. I too have been there, done that. Stay strong. |
| posted by Cooper's Mommy on 11/12/2008 02:25 AM
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| I'm sorry for all your going through. I would run as far away from him as possiable. It's going to be hard for a long time but it'll be better for your son. My parents always faught and threw stuff and my dad was abusive. I don't let my children see my husband and I argue because I know how it feels. They blame them selves. Please take care of yourself and your son. Just think of what is good for you two. You don't need him. |
| posted by Kris on 11/12/2008 07:55 AM
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| hi marie,i know how u feel.i am in the same situation.my husband cheats everytime i go out of town.we have a son together. he sys he dont cheat but i know he does cause i catch him.hes online looking for sex.his daughter even told me she met one of these ladys while i was in tenn visiting my sick dad.so i know hes been doing it.i have confronted him and he says no he dont.i want stayed married but how can i if if is gonna still cheat.we have ben married for only 3 years.and yes hes ceated on me with his ex wife also while i was in hospital almost dying delervering our son.so rite there i know he will never change.but what can i do?i have no family to run to or talk to cause i am in missouri all alone.and no friends either cause im a stay at home mom.we dont even make love no more cause i cant trust him.so it is really bad now.im ready to have a nervouse break down.so if there is anyone out there tha would love to be my friend or lives close by please get a hold of me.i really need someone to talk to. |
| posted by angie on 11/16/2008 10:55 AM
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| Marie. I believe once a cheater always a cheater. I do have to say that I am a fortunate one because my guy left me last year for two months for another girl. We were haveing problems and she gave him away out so he took it. He moved back to oklahoma to be with her. When he realized that it was just a game to her and that she wouldn't be the person she said she would be especialy when she didnt even call him for his birthday he asked to come back. And I took him back but I still have the fear that he will leave again. He has been back for over a year now and thigns are good. No matter what I will have the fear that he will leave when things get really bad between us no matter how much he tries to reinssure me that he is not going anywhere. So I have to agree with everyone else and stay away from him. Do not take him back no matter what he says. He has done something worse then what my guy did and he can never take that back. It will be hard but just believe in yourself. Everytime you feel like you cant do it anymore just look into your son's eyes it will make you realize that everything you do is worth it. You are stronger then what you realize. |
| posted by Becky on 11/16/2008 10:43 PM
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| Marie, you should definitely leave him. You and your child should come first before any man especially one who is unfaithful. Besides, he gave you a nasty present. (I am not saying that you are) |
| posted by Monica on 11/17/2008 03:38 PM
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