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Hi everyone! I am so frustrated right now that I could hit somebody(ex). Its been about two weeks since I broke up with my son's father. We were in a relationship for approximately 10 years and we had just moved in together when our baby was born. My son is 15 months old.
He has three children from a previous marriage that are currently teenagers and always getting into trouble to the point where one of them had an ankle bracelet to keep him at home. Well, dad would tell me that he was going to see his kids about every sunday and I understood the circumstances that his son couldn't leave the the house. A rumor came around that he was sleeping with his ex-wife and I asked him but he denied it. He ended up confessing that he did after i said i would go and personally ask her in front of his children. He said it was only once and then later it came out that it was twice, well who knows what is the truth but I am sure it wasn't a one time event. He is begging now not to destroy "our family" trying to put the decision on me. I told him that he had already made that decision for us. I am so worried for my son. My son suffers from many food allergies but one of the ones that concerns me the most is peanut allergies. I don't feel his dad would take good care of him and this allergy can be life threatening. I was breastfeedig my son and he didnt care that we could get Aids or an STD. What do you suggest I should do? How could I ever trust this man? |
| Posted by marie on 11/08/2008 06:01 PM
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| I'm sorry for your distress Marie, this sounds like a horrendous situation. You will have to decide if you can ever trust him again, especially since he will always see his ex-wife, due to their kids together. Have you guys done any marriage counseling? Personally, I do not think I could get over it if my husband cheated on me, but each situation is different. Whatever you do, make sure it doesn't affect your son negatively. That is the most damaging thing to a small child, when mom & dad fight a lot. Good luck. Let us know how you are doing! |
| posted by Katie on 11/08/2008 07:16 PM
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| Wow.theres no way i would stay in a situation like that either.and because of your child u will alwayys have to deal your ex.plus he has kids by his ex so shell be around.it sounds like he didnt spend much time with the teens.so chances he might be the same with your son.that could be a good thing u dont want the bad influence of the teens around your son.and it sounds like your boyfriend doesnt know how to treat a lady.your son doesnt need that either.whatever you do think about how it will affect your son in the long run.good luck |
| posted by amanda on 11/08/2008 09:13 PM
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Hello,
well my opinion is if you want to take him back at all, you talk to the ex wife. No joke, why should you be the only one hert, and he is all happy. No honey, go to the wife and tell her.
10 to 1 he is still with her, or trying to be with her. I was in the same situation for 9 years, and then I has his baby too. We never did live together though. After I had his kid I called the wife who was supposed to be the ex, and that was not the case. It was after I called her, and told her about the baby and us. If you really want to make it work with him I would talk to her, and get the exact story. If you call her with respect then she will respect you. That is my opinion, and your story sounds like mine 14 years ago. I left him and finaly married a good guy and have been with him for 9-10 years now, and three kids later (total of 6).
I wish you all the best !!
Shauna |
| posted by Shauna on 11/08/2008 11:09 PM
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