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My friend stated to me that her daughter will NOT ! be coming to my house for aftercare because My daughter has been teasing her to were her daughter is going home crying. In no way is my husband and I raising a child to be like that . I have not notice a thing. am I missing warning signs . I don't want my 8yr to grow up having childern not want to be around her. I do know my friends daughter has had this problem with another friend of her's and she to didn't see anything going on either. Do you think this is a way my friends daughter get's attention or to get her way. I know she want to be with her father after school and not here. I don't want my frieind to think my daughter is a bully. This is the frist time I have been told this .
Posted by Patricia on 11/07/2008 02:33 PM

This is somehting that you need to talk to you freind about. You need to find out what it is her daughter is saying she is "teasing" her about. You may not be able to change her decision to not let her be with you, but you need to find out if your daughters actions are something to be concerned about. My daughter is only 3 but plays with older girls 7/8/9 and sometimes she gets upset that they don't let her play, or they say that she is too young. I have told my daughter that she can't let little things like that upset her, if it is so upsetting she needs to come and tell me when it happens so that I can help her. Your freinds kids needs to be able to come to you just like they would with their own mother/father or teacher. If your freind is not willing to work with you and the kids on the problem, then most likely your freind knows that it is something that only she and her daughter have to work on. If your freind will not let her come back I would still sugges that you have a sit down with your daughter and ask a few questions and see what she says about it, explaining that words alone can be very hurtful and it is not being a good freind.
posted by Jennifer on 11/07/2008 03:07 PM

I agree~ talk to the mom and find out more details...bring up to her if she thinks it is a possibility that her daughter has found a way to manipulate the situation so that she can spend time somewhere else instead...and have the talk with your daughter and ask her to be honest and explain why it is so wrong and hurtful to tease. I think being completely honest with your kids is really to their benefit. She is old enough to understand that her friend is upset and this is why... hopefully it all works out :) Hang in there this is a tough one!
posted by Samantha on 11/16/2008 11:56 PM

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