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| Lately..ive been so desperate to make friends.and yet.i still dont have any.i work days.my hubby works nights.when we do get time.he usually wants to sleep.and as much as i love my kidss.i cant talk to them about adult stuff.from time to time i get to feeling guilty because i work.then i have times that i think im glad i work to get out of the house.isnt that pathetic? my getaways is work!for some reason i feel like nobodyknows me.not even my family.im a wife and mom.but what about me as a individual? Im just alone these days |
| Posted by amanda on 11/04/2008 12:47 AM
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I don't think you are crazy at all! I feel the same way as you most everyday. I lost my job in May 2007, and I really miss working and having time talking to adults! I feel like I am able to love and appreciate my son more when I am away from him for awile each day! My husband works 2nds and I am here everyday with my 3 yr. old and that gets kinda old sometimes! Where do you live? I am like you, I feel like the older that I get, most all of my friends are gone or something! I have family, but they are not always too much fun to be around, if you know what I mean!
Hang in there! I would suggest that you maybe try to work part time if that would be financially possible. I know that the hardest part of being a mom is giving up my freedom, at least that is how I feel sometimes! I would love to meet and make new friends too.
Hope things go well for you and feel free to chat at anytime!
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| posted by Holly on 11/04/2008 01:23 AM
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| Have you tried joining a moms group? I found one on meetup.com. It's great they have playdates, moms night out, couples night out, etc. Check it out maybe you will have luck! Other sites are playgroupusa, cafemom, there are some others try googling playgroups with your city/state and see what you come up with. Also I hear yahoo has a lot of groups as well. Good Luck! |
| posted by Amanda on 11/04/2008 09:22 AM
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| Hey amanda, I can identify with what you feel.. I am a SAHM at this time and it gets lonely... I finally started to make a small handful of friends but they are all much younger then i.. I am in my 40's and alot of sahm's are in their 20's and 30's.. though I happen to like these women alot, our worlds are so far apart at times... I talk on here when i am truly lonely or I call my friends and family back in NYC.... |
| posted by ellen on 11/04/2008 09:41 AM
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| Amanda, the feelings you have are completely normal. I think everyone woman feels this way at times. Since my 5 months old Luke was born, I have felt very isolated from adults & definitely crave time to get away from the kids. I have been a stay at home mom for the past year, but have recently been looking for a part time job for a "getaway" from the kids! Definitely try to join a mothers group in your area, or invite some of your kids' friends' parents over for a playdate sometime. I did not have many friends before my baby was born, but I have lately made several friends with other moms. It's good to have someone to relate to. I would also talk to your husband and tell him how you feel, maybe he can devote some extra time for you each day, so you can get some adult time. Good luck & let us know how you're doing! |
| posted by Katie on 11/04/2008 10:23 AM
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| Thankyou.but ive looked for a moms group here and most of them are for stay at home moms.but there in one group.its large and im too shy to just show up at there meetups.i dont no anyone.i tried to talk with the organiser and she was very brassy.so now what? i volunteer at the school.i have found that most the most moms are already in there clicks.and they dont have much to say to me.they mainly stick to there circle of friends.ive told my hubby how i feel and he just tells me everything will be ok.thats his typical answer to everything |
| posted by amanda on 11/04/2008 12:24 PM
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| youll have plenty of ppl here to talk with thats or sure. |
| posted by Lexi on 11/06/2008 03:13 PM
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I know exactly how you're feeling..the only difference with us is that I'm a SAHM..I was used to working 6 days a week 12 hrs a day interaction with adults all the time. Suddenly I had a baby (now 2 babies) and no adults to interact with.. I've joined Mom groups but it hasn't helped at all. The only escape from my kids I get, very occassionally, is running to the grocery store for 30 mins or less...if going longer than I have to take the kids with me.
I do love my kids and my hunny but he isn't social at all and doesn't see the need to have adult friends.but I feel like I'm just mom now not an individual. so I completely understand how you feel...the guilt about leaving the kids and needing to know who you are. |
| posted by Virginia on 11/06/2008 03:19 PM
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| Agreed, Virginia! I miss the alone time too. You still have to be someone besides a mom. It can be VERY frustrating at time! |
| posted by on 11/06/2008 10:26 PM
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| Thankyou ladies.btw i live in wa.any of u live here? i did checkout the cafemom.it looks interesting.but platgroupsusa had nothing in my area.thanks |
| posted by amanda on 11/07/2008 04:45 AM
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