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| Who has said they are having only 1 child and then changed their mind? What was your reasoning and how did you get your husband or significant other to get on board? |
| Posted by Erin on 11/03/2008 03:46 PM
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Well I was for sure 2 was it for me... I even requested to have my tubes tied I "thought" I was so sure. So glad my doc didn't listen, now I want more!!!
My husband is ok with it as long as we plan financially. But if he doesn't want another one and he has valid reasons that don't seem to change, I've been advised not to push it cause that could cause major problems down the road!
What made you want more now?!?!
Good luck!! |
| posted by Candice on 11/03/2008 07:03 PM
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| I always wanted 2 kids & that's b'cause I'm an only child. Growing up I didn't miss having a brother or sister (even though I wanted one) since my cousin & I were close in age. Now that I'm older I truly missing having one b'cause it's lonely. I don't want my son feeling like me someday. My husband at first only wanted one kid but ever since our son was born he can't wait to have another one. That's what changed my husband's mind =) |
| posted by GG on 11/03/2008 10:00 PM
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I feel the same way GG. I am the only child, and have a cousin one year older than me and we were always treated like sisters. We got the same outfits for christmas went everywhere together. Now she has 3 daugters all teenagers they all stay busy and have their own lives. My husband and I have one son, 2 1/2 and I would love for him to have a brother or sister. The other reason to, is because we are older parents, I am 37 my husband is 36 and I would love for him to have someone to grow up with and have someone after we are gone, that sounds so weird to say but that is my thought.
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| posted by amy on 11/04/2008 07:29 AM
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| I am one of five kids, but my husband has only one sibling. We have a 2 year old son, and I am leaning towards having a second. I am really close with my siblings, but my husband isn't all that close to his brother. I think that is why he doesn't see the importance of having a sibling the way I do. The issue is on the table now, so we'll see how it goes! I never thought he would be on board for number two, as he didn't even want one in the first place. Now he is totally in love with our son, and I think his biological clock is ticking louder than mine! |
| posted by Jade on 11/04/2008 08:37 AM
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| I am the youngest of 6 & my husband is the little brother of 2. We originally planned on having more then one child, but when I was pregnant & during my postpartum period I changed my mind & was convinced that we should have only 1. Thats changes again. I love every moment with my little girl & I want her to have siblings like I did, though not nearly as many. I think 3 may be a happy medium. I think my hubby may be willing to have as many as I agree to. |
| posted by Melanie on 11/04/2008 10:00 AM
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| Isn't it funny how we change our minds? In my 20's I never thought I wanted kids! |
| posted by Jade on 11/04/2008 10:24 AM
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My story is kinda funny because when my husband and I decided to try for a baby, all we wanted was one. I ended up getting pregnant with twins so my husband and I were going to have two the first time around. My tubes are tied and so are his. If we decide latter we want more we'll adopt.
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| posted by Gina on 11/04/2008 11:59 AM
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| Well, After I had Nina I saw beyond myself. I started thinking about her future, about being lonely as a child and after my husband and I are gone she will have no one that really truly relates to her sorrow. People have given me an example unintentionally, like my mom had 2 kids and she always wanted 1 more my whole life, and my friend who was an only child when her dad died she had a miserable time. My husband is another story, every time Nina goes through a difficult stage he reassures himself he doesn't want more and that scares me because I do! |
| posted by Erin on 11/04/2008 02:46 PM
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I'm sorry Erin to hear that your husband doesn't want more. Maybe he will come around, or maybe it will just happen. If God wants you to have more children, you will. Trust in him and things will work out. Before I met my husband I never thought I was going to have kids, didn't even like them. A year or so after I was married I started changing my mind and boy am I glad I did. I love my two boys more than words can say.
Best of luck Erin. I wish you the best. |
| posted by Gina on 11/04/2008 03:51 PM
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| Wow! I wish I wanted more children, my fiance wants at least two more he says, but I have one from a previous relationship that he loves like his own, and he has none of his own, but I just don't think I can do it again, let alone 2 or 3 times....And he watches sports too much anyways, I'd be doing it by myself anyway. |
| posted by lisa on 11/05/2008 10:23 AM
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| well, I wasn't sure I even wanted 1 kid! But, my husband talked me into it and now that we have 1 I can't wait to have the next one! Now I think I want 4, so I went from wanting 0 kids to 4 within a year's time. I think one reason I changed my mind because I loved being pregnant and can't imangine not experiencing that again. But, the biggest reason is the joy I have being a mother. Granted it's hard, very hard, but it's also the best thing ever. Not sure how I'm going to get the husband on board though...he's having a hard time dealing with the crying and isn't sure if he wants any more... |
| posted by joann on 11/05/2008 08:22 PM
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