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| My son is 19 months old and he is a handfull. He doesn't like to eat, he wants to play all the time. He is bored easily and if he is not entertained he starts getting into things or climbing or throwing. I was at a party over the weekend and another mother said to me "how old is he? He is tough!" I think she was being nice but meant is is wild. This child has a mind of his own and he wants to do what he wants. I am scared for him to turn 2. I started time outs already. Any advice on how to keep my "tough" child behaved? Also how to get him to eat? |
| Posted by Kim on 11/02/2008 08:02 PM
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| I think part of it is a boy thing. My husband plays with my son and lets him (our son) do a lot of things he shouldn't, like bounce on him run and jump at him. I told my husband that he thinks he can do that to everyone and doesn't know his limts, like grandma doesn't want him to make a flying leap at her or grandpa doesn't want him to bounce him up and down for five minutes on his leg. Time outs did not work for us but consequences work wonders. That may work better for your son in a few more months, My son is 2 1/2. If he hits though he does go to his room, I guess that is sort of like time out but most everything else gets a consequence, like no going outside until he picks up his toys or no snack until he comes in and goes to the potty, things like that. I have a friend who has tried it (consequences) and she said her son is not affected by it, he doesn't care if he doesn't get something, or gets to do something. So it works for some I guess but not for all. Good luck. |
| posted by amy on 11/02/2008 08:38 PM
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| My son is turning 20 months in two days and he sounds just like my son! My son has a temper and man is it horrible. There are many days that he doesnt eat well! I let him use a spoon to eat and eat on his own and he prefers this. Also once he starts playing with his food I say and sign "no" and tap (and litterally mean a tap) his hands. The second time I take all his food and it either gets wrapped and put in the fridge or the trash if there is not much left. This has seemed to help some. Plus I have changed his routine food wise a little. He gets a nice breakfast with a sippy of milk. Then he gets a light lunch or sippy of milk and then nap. Then he get the good dinner. Next he gets a decent snack and when i am able (do to working and so many people helping) if he didnt eat dinner then its another try at his dinner food. Otherwise if he ate dinner he gets a snack... you know popcorn, cheese and crackers, and sometimes ice cream. This has helped him eat better most of the time. It has become a learning. He plays with his food and i take it away and then when he calms give it back for a second try. I usually take him playing with food to mean he is not hungry! And i have been told as long as he is gaining weight it is fine. He usually skips lunch because he isnt hungry before he goes down for his nap so he has milk for his lunch and other days he gets lunch. Time outs do not work for us yet... He wont sit still when he gets into trouble for time out to work. Does your son speak well for his age? Mine is behind on his speech and that has explained a lot of his "wildness" and "temper"! They have atributed many tempertantrums to frustration due to not being able to express themselves so i have just within the past day started implementing sing with speech and we are getting him evaluated with the states program in ky for first steps. He is smart with understanding and problem solving and everything else basically. He is behind on speech but not much so we will see. But his speech may be part of the issue if that is true so try some sign language. I found its mostly easy gestures! Also I find either changing his location using the term loosly. Such as I let my son play the first half of the morning in the living room and then we go outside before nap. Now that it is getting cold I will be taking him to the den to play. new places help because they get bored easy. I also found taking a quarter or half of his toys and hiding them for a week or two and then swapping them out every so often helps a lot as well! Hopefully this helps but mostly i've learned that most 18 yr olds are 2 yrs old at heart... especially boys! |
| posted by Lori on 11/03/2008 02:39 AM
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| Lori our son's sound like clones :). I do many of the same things with toys and changing environments. If we don't he gets very naughty. My son is talking some words and I think that it is helping. When he whines I make him attempt to say the word that he wants, like up or down or more. We also did sign which I think delayed some of his words because he would only sign the word and not say it till recently. I am glad to hear that you struggle with the same things, thanks for all your advice. |
| posted by Kim on 11/03/2008 12:51 PM
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