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today i thought it would be nice if i got off early and picked up some lunch and took it to my daughters school.we could have lunch together.
so i surprised her! did i get a thankyou?no!!!!
instead,she told me that im embarrassing,and to never do this again.all her friends said hi to me and were very sweet.she is so mean to me sometimes.its moments like these that i wonder if she really does hate me. |
| Posted by amanda on 10/23/2008 06:41 PM
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| She doesn't hate you. You were just in her territory. School is a place where kids do not have to be around their parents. This is where they can feel independent. Trust me it is not personal. In kindergarden thru 2nd grade they want you to be there, halloween parties, christmas parties etc......but as they get older they don't. I think as parents we feel our kids what us around them, but while in school, they actually don't. A rude awakening for us parents, but the truth. I have a daughter that is 20 and a son that is 17. I didn't mean to be blunt. |
| posted by Lisa on 10/23/2008 07:17 PM
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I think that every parent feels this way. My 16 year old son asks me to park a block away from his friends house or school. He says it embarrasses him to get dropped off by "Mommy". It hurts, but I try to respect his wishes. Amanda, just know that it makes every mother want to cry when their kids start to show their independance and don't want us around anymore.. they still do, but they don't want to mix mom time and friend time together. We have a tri-level home and my son hates having his friends here because there is nowhere they can go that is away from me. I like it for that same reason.. I know everything they do when they are home.
Just remember, this is just her being a teen, in a few years she will not be able to go a day without talking to you or seeing you. In the mean time, just hang in there! |
| posted by Heather on 10/24/2008 09:42 AM
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| thanks everyone,you know there was a day that talking to your parents like that was not acceptable.my parents would never have tolerated it.but i also would have never told my mom say was an embarrassment.i remember being that age.and my mom drove me crazy,but i also knew were the boundaries were.now a days its just accepted that teens act like jerks.i dont think its right.and its hurtful.i guess i just feel emotionally drained.i give her so much.do nice things,work my ass off.and for what? a bratty kid,who doesnt appreciate things.dont get me wrong i love her.but she hurts my feelings almost daily.i know she loves me too.its just a difficult age,i guess |
| posted by amanda on 10/24/2008 02:32 PM
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Kids, GOTTA LOVE EM! My son was in high school. I work for my father's plumbing company, so when my car broke down, I was offered the use of one of the plumbing trucks, complete with a pipe rack and picture of a toilet on the doors. I drove my son to school everyday. He begged me to drop him off in the parking lot beside the school drop off area. I complied. His friends saw him anyway.
The next day he asked me to pull right up front in the truck. I asked what changed, he replied,"Did you know this truck has bullet holes in the door?" Now it was a cool truck. The bullet holes were actually nail gun holes.
I used to tell my sons that it was my job as a parent to embarass them and I took my job seriously.
Hey, Don't sweat the small stuff :) |
| posted by Kathy on 10/30/2008 12:27 PM
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| thanks kathy.thats a cute story.i guess all parents go thru similiar things.lol |
| posted by amanda on 10/30/2008 01:18 PM
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| thanks kathy.thats a cute story.i guess all parents go thru similiar things.lol |
| posted by amanda on 10/30/2008 01:18 PM
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I have a 14 year old son - he hates when I come to school because all his friends come up and talk with me -
I also tell him my goal for that day was to embarrass the daylights out of him - he rolls his eyes and goes on his merry way -
They will get over it and I certainly wouldn't stop going to the school and having lunch with her. Someday she will look back and think it was kewl!!
Keep the faith |
| posted by Charity on 10/31/2008 02:42 AM
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