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Maybe, to them, if THEY were to get pregnant, it would be bad news... for them.
People may not realize this is how you intended or planned to have your family.
My daughter is 18 months old and I'm 6 months pregnant, and you should see the looks: aww-how-cute (when they see my baby), which turn into borderline-horror when they see my belly. LOL.
I have had people ask me "was this planned/expected?" and I proudly say "yes, and we couldn't be happier". We wanted them close together.
People tend to think that personal questions are not personal anymore when a woman is pregnant. |
| posted by Bethany on 10/23/2008 11:32 AM
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| Well I am happy for you. :-) Listen to this... When i told one of my best friends that i was pregnant with my daughter, guess what her response was... "That sucks for you"...Nice. Needless to say, we aren't friends anymore. LOL |
| posted by Jen on 10/23/2008 12:08 PM
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I agree with Bethany, for some reason when you are pregnant, it's everyone's business. Maybe because your belly is protruding out?? I have no idea, but you should be excited and happy that you are having another child, even if they are not. Like Bethany said, just show how excited you are and if they ask if it's too soon, say, "Not for us. Everyone is different."
Congratulations!!! |
| posted by Jennifer on 10/23/2008 12:23 PM
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| I know how you feel. My husband and I had been trying for 5 years to get pregnant. We finally got pregnant with the help of fertility treatment... so naturally I sent a glowing e-mail to my closest family and friends. I didn't even think for one minute anyone would be anything less than happy for us.. well, my aunty sent me an 18-paragraph rant about how selfish I was to bring a baby into the world, and she has a child herself! I chalked it up to some people just see a need to blurt out their point of view. |
| posted by Jackie on 10/23/2008 08:25 PM
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Wow Jackie. That would be hard, but at the same time not surprised. It's funny the reactions from different people when you tell them you are pregnant, whether it is the first time or the 3rd. We too tried for 7 years, did all the testing for fertility, had a prescription waiting for the pens, etc. and then the day I went to pick up the pens, something told me to take a pregnancy test, and there it was... pregnant. We didn't tell anyone at first, but finally at 12 weeks we were so exited to tell the world we were finally pregnant and because I was 37 so many people told me it was selfish to try at such an age. I was shocked and saddened, but there were many more people who were equally as excited as we were, so I just blew the others off and have never looked back.
Bring a child into the world, no matter what the circumstances should always be a positive experience. |
| posted by Jennifer on 10/23/2008 08:52 PM
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Congradulations on your baby!!!
I knew how you feel, when I told my grandpa that I was pregnant and dew April ('07) he just looked at me and said that kids are so expencive these days to raise that both parents have to work and he didn't know why we wanted one any way. Talk about hurt, my own grandfather. Although I can kind of understand where he is coming from (loooong story).
My husband and I are trying for our second one, wish they were closer but some times that how it goes. After I had my first one and we started talking about a second my mom told me that I should wait to give my body a break and that 2-3 years is a good age differance. My husband is mid 30's and I am late 20's so we didn't want to have then that far apart if we were going to have more than 2, and personaly I do.
Anyway, enjoy your pregnancy and your baby. Good luck and God bless.
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| posted by Anne on 10/24/2008 08:07 AM
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Some people can be just down right rude. Try not to let it bother you as long as you and your DH are happy that is all that matters.
My kids are 12 years apart and it was the best thing we ever did I love the age difference because I don't have to hear all the bickering like I hear with my 2 step kids who are only 16 months apart.
Don't get me wrong I wanted mine close together but my ex husband decided he only wanted one so I was devastated it took me 9 years to find my soul mate and another 2 years trying we had given up.
I am Happy for you and I hope your pregnancy goes well. |
| posted by Kristhal on 10/24/2008 09:36 AM
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| posted by April on 10/24/2008 03:41 PM
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| posted by April on 10/24/2008 03:41 PM
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| First of all, congrats! Getting pregnant is always good news in my opinion. Everyone's idea of the perfect family is different. Personally, my baby is just 7 weeks old and I'm ready to start trying for another. Logically I know I need to give my body time to recoup, so we are going to wait about a year. But, I say as long as you are healthy and feel up to it why not. My father-in-law said something to me about this a few weeks ago which I just loved - "It's your life." So do what makes you happy and to heck with what everyone else thinks! |
| posted by joann on 10/24/2008 08:14 PM
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| Hey there - I just wanted to say, you don't know the spectacle I am. I have twins 19 months old and about to have another baby in about a week.... and I am HUGE!!!! I have actually been surprised at how congratulatory people have been and how nice they have been. I feel like we sometimes get dirty looks from people, but what do they know! I believe there is pretty much nothing bigger you can do with your life than bring a child into this world. You have no idea what the impact is going to be, it is something truly bigger than yourself. Anyways, congratulations on your second child!!! Our society is so selfish these days, they don't know what really counts in life. Peace & God Bless! Colleen :) |
| posted by colleen on 10/24/2008 11:27 PM
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Wow so I guess this is what I have to look forward too? Congratulations by the way. My son just turned 10 months and we want to start trying for #2 the end of this year and hope no later than the end of next we are pregnant again. We too wanted them close in age so I guess unless you understand or want the same thing it comes as a shock to some. Oh well, to each their own and to us more babies!
Good luck everyone! |
| posted by Nichole on 10/25/2008 01:37 PM
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| My personal thought is that some people just know how much work it is, and so they think why would anyone plan things that way. Maybe they don't realize that they are really projecting a strong feeling of disbeleif. I don't know. I guess I am just trying to make it better. Maybe they are just ___holes. But anyway congratulations!!! And don't worry so much what other pople think. |
| posted by Kim on 10/28/2008 01:58 AM
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Thats crazy you would think they would be happy for you.. Some of them may be jealous you think? Dont worry about what others say because they are goint to think what they want regardless. If it was me I would flip on them ;)
Ericka
www.healthrepsneeded.com |
| posted by Ericka on 10/28/2008 09:03 AM
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