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| Hi everyone. I have a 15 month old boy and he is the sweetest thing except for the biting. If you say no to him, he will literally chase you around the house with an open mouth trying to bite you. Also, sometimes he will just bite out of no where. He is teething and I give him teething tablets but that only helps the fussiness. I need help!!! I feel I have tried everything from time outs (which don't really work because he doesn't understand yet) to a dab of hot sauce on his tongue to biting him back (which I never did again after I read that that is the worst thing to do...not that it helped because after I did it, he screamed and then bit me again). If anyone has any suggestions, i would love to hear them. |
| Posted by Crystal on 10/13/2008 03:53 PM
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| I am having the same problem with my 22 month old. I would love suggestions too. Hopefully someone has advice to give us. |
| posted by Brooke on 10/13/2008 10:11 PM
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Does he only bite when he is angry about something, or at other times too?
Many times children will bite out of frustration because they do not have the words to communicate their wants and feelings to you yet. If he is teething, maybe when he bites you tell him that people are not for biting, but give him something that he can bite on. Tell him he could carry it around with him and if he feels the urge to bite, then he can bite that item.
Good luck ladies! I know that biting can be such a hard stage to get past. Keep us posted! :) |
| posted by Christen on 10/13/2008 10:52 PM
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My kid used to bite. It was a phase that lasted about 3 and a half months. He bit kids at daycare, and I can never forget that feeling when the news was laid upon me. It was also hard to punish him, because by the time i picked him up from daycare, the incident happend 5 hours ago. He also NEVER bit at home. I'm very very grateful that my daycare provider did not give us the boot after the 6th or 7th incident. He's 26 months now, and i'm proud to say that we've curbed it.. :)
Well the one thing i did was research on it. I read about "WHY" they bite, which really helped me understand this unacceptable behavior. One of the main reasons that my son bit was because he did not know how to communicate his feelings because he couldn't talk.
Okay, all babies are different, but the one thing that is important, is that you HAVE to let your kid know that biting is wrong and it HURTS. Everyday, everyday, you have to let them know. Even when they aren't biting.
The one thing that really really helped us move on from this horrible habit, was talking about it. I bought a book called,
"Teeth are not for Biting, by Elizabeth Verdick, and I read it to him every nite (not kidding) for a whole month. Even though we curbed the biting, he actually still chooses that book for our bedtime story sometimes.
Just remember ladies that this is just a phase and they will get past it.
I never tried hot sauce, I did however bite him back once or twice. But the most effective results i had was "talking" to him constantly about biting.
Time outs and changing their scene helps too to make them realize that biting is bad.
The one thing that they do understand about biting was they will get that attention or reaction they want. So once they attempt or actually bite, time out right away, and then sternly say "Biting Hurts, or biting is NO-NO".
Keep researching too and educate yourself on how to curb biting. like i said, every kid is different but all kids get through this with hard work and determination.
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| posted by hoot on 10/13/2008 11:03 PM
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| crystal, me personally, with my son, when he was biteing, i would spank him,(not hard,but just enough to get his attention, and let him know that was wrong.) i do believe in spanking. my son does not bite anymore. he knows its wrong. i have found that this is the only form of punishment my son understands. |
| posted by teresa on 10/13/2008 11:24 PM
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| spanking is bad and makes children even more defiant. |
| posted by hoot on 10/13/2008 11:33 PM
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| The more children are hit, the more likely they are to hit others including peers and siblings and, as adults, they are more likely to hit their spouses (Straus and Gelles, 1990; Wolfe, 1987). Hitting children teaches them that it is acceptable to hit others who are smaller and weaker. |
| posted by hoot on 10/13/2008 11:39 PM
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| the bible says spare the rod spoil the child. hey, who wants a poiled child/ (then one day adult?) it hasnt tought my kid to hit. and like i said before, its the only form of punishment my son understands. every child is different though. what might work for one might not work for another. all i can speak of is mine.you raise your kids your way, i will raise mine mine. |
| posted by teresa on 10/14/2008 12:17 AM
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He does bite when he is angry but he also bites when we are playing around or even when we are just sitting and I am trying to comfort him or put him to sleep. He likes to bit my shirt too and he clamps on and pulls it. That is why I mostly think it's his teething but I could be standing in the kitchen washing dishes and he comes up behind me and just bites me. I get so frustrated.
Teresa---I have tried spanking him but all he does is cry and I tell him no biting but it doesn't seem to help. I agree with you that sometimes kids need a little spank but unfortunately this time, it's not helping.
Vanessa---thank you for the advise on the book. I am going to get it and try it out. I will keep you posted on how he does with it.
Thank you all for your advise...I will keep you posted on his progress or if he is getting worse. |
| posted by Crystal on 10/14/2008 09:03 AM
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| My 12 month old is a biter as well. I've bitten him back, swatted, said "No, That hurts Mama!", put him in his crib for a time out, and I'm not getting anything to work for me. His granny (Mom) has chastised me for letting himget this bad, but he's just really hardheaded. I would love a really quit solution to the problem, but at this point I really don't think there is anything but time on my side. (Well hopefully he won't bite as an adult.) |
| posted by Robbie on 10/14/2008 10:12 AM
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| posted by hoot on 10/14/2008 01:42 PM
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| posted by hoot on 10/14/2008 01:43 PM
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I am no expert. I stopped spanking my son, because he was starting to hit me and other kids. I realized that i was actually teaching him that hitting was a behavior that was acceptable, and well, since i was doing it to him, he thinks it's "ok". It was counter-productive to my disciplining.
Besides, the pychology behind spanking and corpral punishment does really bring out negative behavior in the long run. research it for yourself. It's very helpful.
I was spanked and disciplined as a child, and i knew that it was because i was naughty. It made me even more naughtier, and resulted in my rebellious teenage life.
Babies are still babies. They just got here and don't know what is right from wrong and vise versa. Right now, helping them understand that certain types of behavior is not acceptable by talking to them. NOT spanking them and showing them anger. Show them love and to respect.
I have a son, and if one day when he's old enough, decides to disrespect me, i would only blame myself. Because it was me who is raising him and molding his mind.
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| posted by hoot on 10/14/2008 01:43 PM
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| If all else fails with the biting, get them a muzzle. |
| posted by hoot on 10/14/2008 01:43 PM
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| vanessa, i am sure you were just jokeing about the muzzle; but if not, i am pretty sure that would be a form of child abuse. |
| posted by teresa on 10/14/2008 04:33 PM
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Teresa, do you feel good when ever you strike your child?
What if he doesn't listen to you? Do you spank them harder?
That would be a form of child abuse.
*fact.
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| posted by hoot on 10/14/2008 05:41 PM
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Spare the rod and spoil the child.
He'll thank you one day.
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| posted by hoot on 10/14/2008 05:49 PM
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