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| Hello , I have been a SAHM for a very long time i have The lord jesus to get me thru some hard time and a lot of tears , I just take it one day at a time i have 2 kids a 13 yr old who is handicapped & a 10 yr old i wonder how i do it myself lol i have no patients at times lol but i do it |
| posted by rhonda on 06/04/2007 12:09 PM
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| Trust me I know how you feel. I have been home just for a few months since I have had my second child. It makes not sence to go back and pay so much for daycare. So I stay home. I have some good days and bad days, but it is all worth it. I try to get out of the house and do things with my oldest who is two, and a two month old so things get tough. We all go through it, it is normal!!! |
| posted by Jeanette on 06/04/2007 12:18 PM
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| Talk to your husband about setting aside time for you. Once a day, once a week, or once a month. What ever it takes for you to feel sane again. Whether you get together with other moms, go on a date with your husband, go for a walk or shopping alone, or get to sleep in. You need to get away and recharge! |
| posted by Cinda on 06/04/2007 12:22 PM
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| I agree talk to your husband! My husband is wonderful when he gets home, I shower or go for a drive, walk or just go in the room for a little bit! Even though he is at work all day we have a much harder job at home!!! |
| posted by Jeanette on 06/04/2007 12:42 PM
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| My dears, I don't know how I do it either. Some days are easier than others. I miss my former self, single with an awesome career and no other responsibilities besides my dog, so very much! At the same time, I look at my little girl and it makes me feel better to know that I am raising her the way that I know is right. I'm not paying a stranger to spend precious moments with my baby. If you can't make personal sacrifices for your own child, there are truly no sacrifices worth making! Just hang in there, find support wherever you can get it, and know that one day your kids will thank you over and over and over again for everything you are doing for them. I know it's a struggle, but it's so so worth it. That's what I tell myself at least! Hang in there! |
| posted by Briana on 06/04/2007 12:46 PM
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It is definitely a struggle some days to be a SAHM. It is the most important job I will ever have.
It can be tough to get through the day without being completely exhausted. You need to remember that you can't do it all, and organize your priorities so that the important things get done and the other things can wait sometimes.
Don't try to do everything by yourself. Ask your husband, or someone else you trust, for help when you are feeling overwhelmed. Take some time for yourself, and remember why you are doing this. This time will go by so quickly, try to enjoy it as much as possible.
Some good reading on the subject:
http://www.helium.com/tm/273991
http://www.helium.com/tm/257590 |
| posted by Marcia on 06/04/2007 01:04 PM
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| Hello, I am also a stay at home mom, but only have one child, and that is alot of work in itself. I am truly blessed to be able to stay at home with my bundle of joy. Wow two would be alot of work. I have been at home with my daughter for a year now and her daddy works from 6am to 6pm so we are on our own alot. Do you have the boys on a schedule that may help. I found that putting my daughter on a schedule really helps. She gets up at the same time everyday and eats her meals at certain times, then we go outdoors twice a day on most days or one big outing at the park. This way when she naps I can do household chores and relax to at the same time everday. Also Baby Einstien videos are great they last around 30 minutes, gives me time to do the morning dishes and throw a load of laundry in. Hope this helps. |
| posted by charise on 06/04/2007 01:41 PM
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Hey Girls
I imagine this is why this website was created so that WE ALL can remember that on these slow boring SAHM mom days we sometimes have just take a brief moment and remember WE are not alone !!!!!!!!!! YES doesnt that help ....just know what u are feeling so are thousands of other SAHM too. :O)
LAURA (mom of 28 mon old son) |
| posted by laura on 06/04/2007 01:53 PM
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| I'm feeling nuts today and I only have the one so far (he's 8 mo.) My mom had 4 of us at home without a car! I don't know how she did it! I try to get out for walks just to breathe, we go out to the stores to walk around sometimes...and then during his naps, I plan something to do that isn't wife or mom related...it's just Kelly time. Like one chapter of a good book, scrapbooking, gardening...and then, yes, tell your husband when you need some time to go breathe. |
| posted by Kelly on 06/04/2007 03:20 PM
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Hi Jacelyn,
You have your hands full with 2 toddlers! It is very exhausting. My kids are now 6 and 4, and it definately gets better the older they get! I am still drained at the end of the day though, so I don't know how long that lasts! For me, I just finally gave in to the fact that my house is never going to be as clean as I want and I am never going to get everything done on my list. That helped me relax and just have fun playing with my kids because it goes so fast and soon they will be in school all day! One thing that does help me regroup and rest, is I have been having "quiet time" for years. When one naps, the other one plays quiety in his room. Now that both kids are not napping, they both have quiet time for an hour (gear the time to your kids). If they play quietly without coming out, they get to play with me, or go swimming or whatever activity I have planned. |
| posted by Kara on 06/04/2007 04:08 PM
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| I know exactly how you feel, except I have only been a SAHM for about 8 months now. I have three boys that are very close in age, 3, 2, and 8 months. It has been a tough transition, but I get through the day by taking them places when I can, the park, the library for story time, and other kid friendly places where I am bound to find other moms to talk to. It is nice because then my focus is shifted back to the reason why I am home. Luckily, they have all adjusted well to the schedule that I have placed them on and nap at the same time, allowing me to either do house work or just take time off for me (we all need it to remain sane). Keep it up, you won't regret it later! |
| posted by Jessica on 06/04/2007 07:09 PM
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I've only been a SAHM since February of this year. It's been quite an adjustment after working over 18 yrs at the same job. I have three children (boy almost 12, another boy almost 9 and a daughter who is 9 months old). I'm also expecting another baby boy in the fall. My youngest will be 14 months apart. Honestly, I think it's probably easier to go to work outside the home some days than it is to be a SAHM. But, after working for so many years and juggling having the boys I rather have it the way I have it now. I still have days where I want to pull my hair out but I also have more time to do the same things I use to do that I did when I worked. I have to get better organized again though if I'm going to survive two babies at once! I also don't have any friends with babies anymore...all their children are older and in school. So, I'm finding that I need to make an effort to go meet other Moms with babies or at least similiar situations. I think it's extremely important to get some "me" time because we give so much of ourselves to our children that we have to take sometime for ourselves in order to fill up our tanks to keep going. I think having a schedule of some sort will help the day go by. The days can be very long but since my oldest will be 12 soon I realize the years are going by pretty fast.
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| posted by on 06/04/2007 09:47 PM
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| We belong to a mommys group with about 75 moms in the group . We go to outings 2-4 days a week depending on what it is. and Mom goes to moms night out with out the kids. My 2 year old goes to mothers day out 2 days a week as well. It helps me to have a break and get things done that need to be done. Melissa |
| posted by Melissa on 06/05/2007 12:57 AM
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