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| I have the sweetest, most wonderful, eager to please six year old daughter you could ask for. My son, who is 14 months is quite different. He is impossible to please. He is a picky eater and has been since he was 8 months old. He needs to be held a lot. He doesn't seem to really just explore and enjoy himself that often. It is definitely not the usual for him to be happy and playing. I am excited when he hangs out and plays with blocks or books or whatever and I think, wow, maybe it will get better and he'll be normal and happy. But most of the time I think what is wrong with him? He usually seems to understand what everyone is saying and he makes eye contact and snuggles at bedtime and stuff, so I don't think it's autism or anything, but I wonder if it's something? Is he just a miserable person? Is he destined to be this unhappy forever? Am I a bad mother for thinking these things? Or is it a result of something I did/am doing? HELP! |
| Posted by jenna on 09/27/2008 10:00 PM
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| I dont think its you, because if it was, then it would have to be me too! I have a 7 year old girl. She is a great helper, easy to please, just generally a fun person to be around. My almost 2 year old, completely different story! She is angry and rotten! She yells and cries. She want to be held all the time. If she can get her way, she screams and yells! She cant play by herself... My list goes on and on and on!!!! I wonder if its a case of 2nd child syndrome! OR maybe we just forgot that our first babies acted the same way. I dont know. Cant give you any advice, but I wish ya luck cuz Im in the same boat, except I have a 4 month old son in the mix also! |
| posted by Kelly on 09/27/2008 10:16 PM
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I only have one daughter, she is almost a year old. And she will probably be like your older daughters. She was sleeping through the night at 3 months (12 hours), she will eat anything, she is very flexable, loves to explore things. But my mom said that my older sister was very well behaved too, then she had my older brother (there are 5 of us all together). She said, simply, that if she had had my brother first, she would have stopped at one. So she expects me to have a very difficult second child as well. I highly doubt it is either of you, i think it must just be a second child sort of thing. I am sure it doesn't happen to everyone, but it will most likely pass eventually...
And just think of it this way, somewhere down the road, 20, 30 years. He or she will have their own kids. And, if there is any justice in this world, their children will be as difficult as they were.
at least thats what i like to think when Anna acts up... one day she will be as exasperated as i am. It helps a little. |
| posted by Becky on 09/27/2008 10:54 PM
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We always blame ourselves, don't we?! But every child has their own personality, regardless of how much we love them or how available we are. So don't blame yourself! But he may just be a highly sensitive and needy child. My first son needed to be held all of the time and my second is able to soothe himself much more quickly. Different children have different needs and it has nothing to do with how they are parented. But we can respond to them in ways that work for them and in the end make it easier for us too. Give yourself a break. I know Dr. Sears has a website and talks about this a bit, the highly sensitive child. Check it out. And good luck!
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| posted by gia on 09/27/2008 11:06 PM
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