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It seems that everything goes topsy turvy at once. My hubby and I are fighting all the time....he blames me of course. I just want him to help out more. He wants passion and intimacy and usually after a long day. He doesn't understand how drained I am, how much I don't want to be touched like that....i breastfeed and stay at home...I'm touched ALL day long. He doesn't do anything to create romance or relax me. I cook, clean, do laundry, take care of bills and our son....for no gratitude. He would rather get online and play on facebook, his forums, or go play guitar with his cousin.
My mother in law is discussing our finances and house searching info with other family members who want to create spreadsheets and figure out our ability to buy. I'm a business major who knows financial info well....
I'm stressed out constantly and upset which builds more because he thinks if he ignores a situation or tells me I'm wrong the situation will go away.
We've gone to counselling and yet he doesn't change. I don't know what to do anymore...I'm just fed up! |
| Posted by on 09/23/2008 03:57 PM
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| Marriage is tough. Heck, relationships are tough. I can totally relate to the 'please don't touch me now'. I have four kids, ages 9, 7, 5, and 3. My five year old has autism, so she is a handful all on her own. Then you add the other three. I am sooo tired at the end of the day. I do everything except cut the grass. I cook, clean, laundry, bathtime, bedtime, rise and shine, get ready for school...you name it, I do it. My husband travels a good bit but when he is home it is as if he isn't - for as much help as he gives. I say the same thing. "Can you please help me with this"? The request ocassionally helps me for that moment but then it is right back to where we started. Or he'll say to me, do you let her do that. Whatever 'that' is. He was there, why didn't he stop her while I was busy wrangeling one of our others...her being my five year old. So much to deal with in regard to the autism. Then he wants to know why I don't want to jump in between the sheets and get down with him. Are you kidding me?? Men and women are so different (I'm not saying anything we don't already know). Why don't they get it. We thrive on the emotional support and emotional love...they get excited to see the refrigerator door open. What's up with that? I wish I had some wonderful advice to share. Certainly continuing to try and talk about it is what we are suppose to do, but that does/can get so tiring, frustrating and draining. At least we can lean on each other. |
| posted by Valerie on 09/23/2008 07:45 PM
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| My husband and I just had a huge fight yesturday about him n ot doing anything around the house. I went to the chiropractor for her to fix my aligment since my head on collusion. I'm in pain everyday of my life. So when I come home from the chiro I always walk into a house that looks like a tornado hit. After I come home from the chiro I feel good (health wise) for a few hours. But when I have to clean and finish laundry and bathe our kids I feel like shit all over again. I told him my god you had two hours to bathe the kids, clean dinnier up and get them ready for bed. I got home 2 hours later and no body had baths, ready for bed, and the kitchen looked WORSE then when I left. I was so pissed I cried. I was so annoyed. He got on warcraft and was playing that the intire time I was gone. He said he played with the kids but I know he didn't. My stepson said he played the game. Then My husband was saying our daughter was running on the couch and getting into everything. Then I told him she is trying to get his attention!!!!!! MEN DON'T GET IT! |
| posted by Kris on 09/25/2008 09:35 AM
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| Thank God I am not alone! I have been really sick since Saturday, going to the doc today cause after calling they think I might have either the flu or pneumonia. Do you think my husband will help me at all?? NO.. he comes home the other night and I didn't have supper done hoping he would help me with it.. what does he say? I'll be in the garage till its done. So today I go to the doc and I ask him to come home early to watch our daughter.. sorry they are too busy so my mom has to come over to watch her so I can go. I am just fed up with it and we have issues in our sex life too... I am too exhausted half the time and the other half I am just so pissed that I don't want to be bothered. I really don't know what to do anymore. I've been stuck home all week with my daughter praying she doesn't catch whatever I have with no help at all and I am just at my wits end! |
| posted by Tammy on 09/25/2008 12:58 PM
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