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| My kids are not willing to clean up on their own it alway's a fight with them about cleaning help!!!!!!!!!! |
| Posted by Sonya on 09/20/2008 12:47 AM
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| Good Morning Sonya, I have 2 teens that are exactly like yours and it USED to be a fight. I have a simple solution: you want them to do things that need to be done right? Well, they want things from you like taking them places, letting them hang w/ friends, talk on the phone (that you pay for), right? I started telling my kids "NO" when they ask me for things when the cleaning hasn't been done. Sometimes I don't even tell they why i said no, just want them to figure it out for themselves. Remember, "NO" is a complete sentence. Hope this helps, Good Luck! |
| posted by Kimmy on 09/20/2008 09:32 AM
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When I find myself fighting with the kids about something, I remember that I have control over things they like to do. With cleaning this is thing: no one in our house likes cleaning but it has to be done; everyone needs to contribute to the upkeep of the house; grounding from electronics works wonders in getting my kids to do their assigned cleaning.
As for them wanting to do it themselves - it ain't gonna happen at my house. They'll always have to be told, sometimes reminded they can be grounded if they refuse or gripe too much, and, on occasion, grounded again to prove it can be done. |
| posted by Kelly on 09/20/2008 09:32 AM
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| Hi Sonya! I have had the same problem, of course. What parent of a teenager has not? I did something a little different that seems to be working for us so far. I have "timesheets" printed out for each week and put up on the fridge. It has each chore listed for each day of the week, and Brandon just initials off when he has done a chore. I have left it entirely up to him whether he does it or not. If he doesn't he losses allowance. I use one of those Visa Buxx cards for allowance, and he knows that if he doesn't do the work, he doesn't get the pay. It kind of helps to begin teaching him the value of a dollar also because I no longer buy him the things he wants like video games and toys, just the necessities. If he wants other niceties, he has to save up his allowance and buy it himself. |
| posted by Sanya on 09/20/2008 12:05 PM
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