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| Public group from Denham Springs, LA |
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| My husband and I are trying to decide how we want to space out children. I know thier are pros and cons to having them closer and further apart. what are you opinions and experiences? |
| Posted by Laura on 10/16/2006 06:43 PM
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| Hi, I've been wondering the same thing for about 10 months now...my sister in law has 2 kids that are 10 months apart :O and she loves it because they are built in playmates (they're both girls also) and my other SIL has 2 girls that are 7 years apart and she liked it b/c the oldest was old enough to help with the little one when she was born, but now they fight all the time and don't get along. My hubby and I are trying to have another now, I would rather have the build in playbuddy than the helper...but good luck to you and your precious new little one! :) |
| posted by newmom05 on 10/17/2006 11:41 PM
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I talked to my OB about this and here is what she said:
Moms who come in with twins or 2 very young children are very very tired (obviously). They say it is very hard. BUT as the kids get older, the moms tend to like the closeness. Built in play buddies, go through difficult stages at about the same times, etc. The older the kids get the more the moms seem to like it.
Moms with children 2 yrs apart come into her office tired and worn out. A 2yr old (for the most part) is still very selfish and tends to want mommy/daddy all to themselves. They generally don't like sharing w/ a new baby. Plus 2 is a generally a tough age anyways-"terrible 2s, potty training, etc."
Mom's who come in w/ their kids 3 yrs apart tend to be happier. Of course if the youngest is a newborn they are tired. But not haggard ike the ones above. A 3 yr old is generally more independent, loves to help (bring diapers, "read" to the baby, get a bottle, etc). Also, they can understand a little better the concept of being a big brother or sister. And they are almost always sleeping throught the night-which might not be the case with a younger child.
Like I said, these are just the observations of my OB-not my personal opinions. I asked her b/c we had 1 child and were trying to decide when to have the next. We have decided to space 3yrs apart. I, personally, could not handle 2 very young children. And as a person with 9yrs daycare experience myself, I found 3 to be a very agreeable age. The kids tended to be really excited about the new baby, eager to help.
In the end, i think it is a totally personal choice. You know yourself and what you can handle, better than anyone. And you know your current baby the best. You know how demanding or laid back your baby is and how much time/attention he/she demands of you now. If your baby now is very demanding and high need (like mine) you may be better off waiting. If your child is easy going (in which case i really envy you) and if you want them closer in age-go for it!!
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| posted by bethany on 02/06/2007 11:14 PM
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