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Hi my name is Jacoba and I have 3 1/2 year old girl. Will someone please give me advice on parenting and the attitudes of little girls? She is so much fun but then that little evil streak comes and watch out. I just want us to get along better, so if anyone has any advice that would be great, thanks.
Jacoba |
| Posted by Jacoba on 05/31/2007 08:40 PM
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When does the evil streak come out? What specifically do you have problems with?
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| posted by Kim G on 05/31/2007 08:49 PM
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| Anytime, it doesnt really matter. She has this attitude with me she talks to me nasty I suppose it is my fault I am kind of a laid back mom, but I tell her I am the mom not you I give the orders not you. Ella" im the momma" I dont know maybe its normal she is testing me to see how far I'll let her go. But I feel like we have been here for a long time and I'm ready to move on. |
| posted by Jacoba on 06/01/2007 08:04 AM
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Well, my daughter is 3 1/2 also. She has that bossy tone too. I agree, I'm ready for it to be over. I keep hearing the four's are great!
Somethings I do when she gets bossy or mean is get down to her eye level and in a firm tone of voice tell her (like you do) you are not going to talk to me like that. I'm the grown up. I tell her next you will go in time out(which doesn't work to well for me) or take her favorite doll away. I do not get her what she wants until she ask me nicely with good manners. I make her say thank you and please.
Sometimes she has the biggest fit but I just wait until she is done or tell her to go to her room. It does help but she ends up doing it again but it has been better.
Hope this helps some! I understand your troubles! |
| posted by Kim G on 06/01/2007 09:01 AM
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Girls are definately different than boys (I have both). Although it is difficult at times, I try to remember to be calm and positive. If my daughter is displaying her "nastiness" at the time, I start with, "I love you and I enjoy being with you when you use nice words" and I walk away, not giving her any attention for the undesired behavior. If she is using an inappropriate behavior to get her way, I always tell her, "That behavior doesn't work for me. When you can treat me nicely, we can...... go to the park (or whatever you had planned). Children will continue a nondesireable behavior even if they are getting negative attention. The key is to let them know what is appropriate and what you like and be CONSISTENT. Over time, I have begun to see a change in my daughter and she now praises herself for using nice words and behavior. It may take time....3 months to a year...but hang in there!
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| posted by Kara on 06/01/2007 09:28 AM
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Well thank you both for your replies. I am very gald to know that I am not the only one with a little girl. Just hearing that helps me feel better. I am doing all the things you women have suggested and will stick to my ways, consistent, thats the word I hear most so I better stick to it. Thank you so much for helping, hope to talk again.
Jacoba |
| posted by Jacoba on 06/01/2007 11:47 AM
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Hi, My name is Ekta. I have a 5 year old girl. She is adorable, very affectionate, but then like you said, she has her moments, when she talks rudely, especially if things are not done her way and gets very upset if someone tells her she made a mistake. Any suggestions how to get her to understand that it is ok to make mistakes and things do not always go the way she wants it.
Ekta. |
| posted by Ekta on 06/01/2007 01:24 PM
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