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| Hi I'm Katey!! Im having a little problem!! for the past year my husband and I have been trying to get a house!! finally we got a loan and found a house we wanted to make an offer on!!! we kept praying and praying , but yesturday we found out that due to the shutdown of fanny mae and freddy mac that they dont want to give us the loan!!!! my husband has been really upset!! and last night while going to bed hesaid that he feels god is punishing him!! he is mad at god and doesnt want to go to church!! all i told him was we should continue to go to church!! then after a restless sleep i kept thinking why god why?? what do i tell my husband to help him threw this? i dont want him questioning his faith!! i am torn !!! HELP!!!!!!!!!! |
| Posted by Katey on 09/10/2008 04:41 PM
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| my husband and I have also been struggling with something similar. God is with you through this all and it is a benefit to you. Now with the government taking over fannie mae and freddy mac interest rates are expected to drop a percentage point or two which means that you will be paying less in the long run. Give God the time to work this out for the two of you---also this may not be the house for you. Remember Jeremiah 29:11---that has kept me going alot of the time. This sounds like a test of the devil...i'll be praying for you family--who knows this test may make your husbands faith become rock strong for the future. Good luck and just show him God and don't let him shake you. |
| posted by on 09/10/2008 04:51 PM
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Hi Katey -
I don't know if this will help, but for me I actually say to myself, this is Satan talking, he wants him to question his faith. I also have to keep my eye in the big picture. So I say to myself, show me God what your plan is and what you want me to do. Maybe right now isn't the time, one door closes another one opens. As cliche as it sounds, it's so true! I also have to remember that it's not my way, but God knows what his plan is for your husband and your family.
Please don't think I'm trying to make light of what is happening with your husband right now. Just know I will say prayers for your husband not to loose his faith during this time. God is still right there leading the way!
All my best-
Cathy |
| posted by Cathy on 09/10/2008 04:59 PM
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Hi Katey,
We went through a similar thing. We were preapproved for the loan, put the $$ down to hold the house, started buying things for the house, then the day AFTER we were supposed to close, the mortgage company decided they didn't want to loan to us. So, we KNOW your pain!! IT's times like these that you NEED to rely on God. He has a reason for the things He does. So many things that could have been wrong with the house, not the right time to purchase, etc. Keep praying for your husband and show him by example how you are going to keep relying on God. Let him God is not punishing y'all, but sometimes His answers just arent what we want. God has His own timirg. We have learned that first hand. You are in my prayers!! |
| posted by marcie on 09/10/2008 04:59 PM
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Katey,
I know what it feels like when things like this happen. A little over a year ago, the church my husband ministered at dissolved his position. I am a stay at home mom, so we had no steady income, I was six months pregnant, and we had just bought a house 11 months earlier. I found myself asking "why?" as well. Through prayer and reading, the answer that came back was "why not?" Other people go through tough times...What makes me think that I am any better than anyone else? Why would I think that it was okay for others to deal with it, but not me? We lived in this limbo for a year. We have just been in our new church/job/town/home for two months. Sometimes God allows us to deal with situations not because we need to be punished, but because we need to be stretched. God didn't promise us that everything would be wonderful... He promised He would be there with us. Sometimes God's timing is not our own (trust me God and I have had many conversations about that--mostly me complaining about it), but His way ALWAYS turns out better than ours. You might consider reading "When Heaven is Silent" by Ronald Dunn. It really helped me during our time. |
| posted by Chrystal on 09/10/2008 05:23 PM
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| Hi katey!! gosh I have not been on this site in a while becuase my kids are getting bigger, but I saw what you wrote and wanted to encourage you ... A few years back we had similiar probles with getting our home so many escrow probles.. My husband started freaking out as well.. My mom always says it is not our timing It is When God wants us to do things not when we want it.. I always say yes I know that but I still want it my way.. so anyways what I am trying to say is encourage your husband you will get through this and maybe some of the other people were correct in saying maybe God as a better house and a better loan... We did not get the house we wanted but now because of where we are in the city we live in my son can go to a really good charter school and it is close... so you never know.. |
| posted by heidi on 09/10/2008 11:48 PM
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Good morning girlie -
I embrace what Chrystal shared - Christians are NOT exempt from life's hardships. Do you have a roof over your head right now? Food on the table? Love between each other??? Honey, you encourage your husband that this trial is allowed by God - not as a punishment, but rather for something better down the road. Look back on other challenges you have faced as a family - can you see that God brought you through and everything worked out for the best? Here is the big question though - given the tough economic times we are in right now - can you afford the mortgage? I'm not asking if you can make the payment, but can you pay the mortgage, pay your debt, save for your retirement, save for college funds.....perhaps financially God is steering you away from this in order for you to examine if this is the right decision. I am a big fan of Dave Ramsey (www.daveramsey.com) and encourage you and your husband to look at his site - and do some research about homebuying. Your profile says you are 21 (?). If you are a 'young' couple, don't sweat not being in a house right now. Interest rates are dropping - and the longer you don't commit to a mortgage payment, that's more time you can SAVE $$$ FOR THE DOWN PAYMENT!!! Life is tough, but the love of Christ and that of Christian friends/good home church will see you through. Don't you dare let Satan get to your family - you and your man need to be in thanksgiving for the intangible blessings you enjoy. Be encouraged!
In His love,
Kenni Raye |
| posted by Kenni Raye on 09/11/2008 10:21 AM
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