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| When my 2 month old son wakes up from a nap and nobody is in the room he screams like someone is trying to hurt him. It's so bad that he will break blood vessels in his cheeks and he will become almost instantly hoarse. I have tried to get in there before he is fully awake, but I am hard of hearing so I don't always hear him stirring. It's like we can never be out of sight. What do I do? It really upsets me when he screams like that! |
| Posted by Tiffany on 09/04/2008 10:10 PM
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| my daughter was like that at that age!! It would upset me also.. she just finally grew out of it.. thank god, my son isn't that way, he just comes and looks for me.. So, he if like my daughter, will just grow out of it.. so, don't worry. |
| posted by Suzanne on 09/05/2008 02:59 PM
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| I hope so :) |
| posted by Tiffany on 09/06/2008 03:24 PM
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| you could get one of those video monitors that you can have sitting next to you & you can watch him starting to wake. |
| posted by sheri on 09/07/2008 06:38 PM
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| good idea about the monitor, but not everyone can afford them.. I couldn't. But, great idea. |
| posted by Suzanne on 09/08/2008 08:46 AM
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Try cosleeping with your baby. Our son used to wake up screaming too until we brought him into our bed. My husband was reluctant at first, but now that we sleep with him, our baby always wakes up smiling.
Cosleeping is one of the 7 B's of Attachment Parenting which is founded by leading Pediatrician Dr. William Sears. www.askdrsears.com
In a nut shell, attachment parenting is a high touch style of parenting that creates a special bond between you and your baby that is so tight, in the future, disciplining will be easy because your baby doesn't want to do anything to make you unhappy. You will also be so used to reading your baby's cues, that you can redirect them quickly if they do start to get into trouble. Your baby will trust you to make the right decisions for him/her because you have built that trust from birth.
It focuses on the 7 B's:
1) Birth bonding: Hold your baby immediately and often skin to skin, 2) Breastfeeding: Breastfeeding helps you read your baby's cues, her body language, which is the first step in getting to know your baby, 3) Babywearing: Carried babies fuss less and spend more time in the state of quiet alertness, the behavior state in which babies learn most about their environment. Babywearing improves the sensitivity of the parents. Because your baby is so close to you, you get to know baby better. Closeness promotes familiarity, 4) Bedding close to baby: Wherever all family members get the best night's sleep is the right arrangement for your individual family. Co-sleeping co-sleeping adds a nighttime touch that helps busy daytime parents reconnect with their infant at night. Since nighttime is scary time for little people, sleeping within close touching and nursing distance minimizes nighttime separation anxiety and helps baby learn that sleep is a pleasant state to enter and a fearless state to remain in, 5) Belief in the language value of your baby's cry: A baby's cry is a signal designed for the survival of the baby and the development of the parents. Responding sensitively to your baby's cries builds trust, 6) Beware of baby trainers: ttachment parenting teaches you how to be discerning of advice, especially those rigid and extreme parenting styles that teach you to watch a clock or a schedule instead of your baby; you know, the cry-it-out crowd. This "convenience" parenting is a short-term gain, but a long-term loss, and is not a wise investment. These more restrained styles of parenting create a distance between you and your baby and keep you from becoming an expert in your child, 7) Balance: In your zeal to give so much to your baby, it's easy to neglect the needs of yourself and your marriage. As you will learn the key to putting balance in your parenting is being appropriately responsive to your baby – knowing when to say "yes" and when to say "no," and having the wisdom to say "yes" to yourself when you need help.
Cosleeping decreases the risk of sids because mother and baby sync up their breathing. A mother will never roll on her baby because she is so in tuned to her baby. Dads on the other hand, don't have this natural awareness to the baby, so the baby should sleep by Mom. There are safe ways to cosleep and you should seriously research them before you try it. Never, ever be under the influence of drugs, alcohol, or pain killers when sleeping with your baby as they decrease your ability to be aware of your baby.
Now that our son is an older baby, he sleeps in between us. It works great for us because my husband works 2nd shift so he doesn't get to see our son very much. Cosleeping lets them get extra bonding time in at night. It's really cute, because most cosleeping babies naturally gravitate towards Mom at night, but our son sleeps nestled next to his Daddy.
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| posted by Julie on 09/08/2008 10:43 PM
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| Julie is right, we bought my son a bassinet/playpen and he absolutely hates it. He will sleep for 10 min then wake up or wake up as soon as I put him in it. co-sleeping has worked wonders and it is very convenient for breast feeding. My son is also two months and he hates the bassinet so I find co-sleeping to be my salvation. |
| posted by Alisa on 09/08/2008 11:10 PM
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You can also try babywearing. Buy yourself a ring sling because it's easy to adjust and it allows you to get your work done hands free and it lets your baby be with you. Babies are happiest when they are carried in a sling. In a sling, your baby can sleep and nurse, while you get on with your life. www.wallypop.net Click on babywearing. These are the least expensive carriers I have found.
Look at it this way. In no other time in your child's life will he be more dependent on you than he is right now. He can't feed himself, bath himself, change his own diaper, walk, or talk. So, of course your baby naturally wants his mother to be touching him. He is not being manipulative, he just wants to make sure you are around to help him stay alive. This time in his life is so short and precious. |
| posted by Julie on 09/08/2008 11:15 PM
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| Co-sleeping is great with my daughter I did it and she didn't get out of my bed until she was 5yrs old, when my son was born. He then took her spot and he still sleeps with me at 2 yrs old. Though, about to put him back to his bed, but it won't be easy for me or him!! I get use to him sleeping with me. Like him snuggling up to me, patting my back, and him playing with my hair to go to sleep. Like waking up to a kiss and a smile from him each morning, it makes my day.. We lay in bed and have our time of just being face to face. Use to do that with my daughter too and it was great!! Go for it! |
| posted by Suzanne on 09/09/2008 08:37 AM
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| I do the wrap now. I have Fibromialgia and most wraps really hurt, but one of my fellow Fibro moms recommended a wrap made from a few yards of interlock cotton. It's awesome!!! And the best part... it only cost $4!!! Check out her video on Fibro mom. It's great! I'm afraid to do the co-sleeping. The whole SIDS thing freaks me out. And my husband and I are both restless sleepers. I'm afraid I'll roll onto him or cover him with our blankets! |
| posted by Tiffany on 10/18/2008 01:15 PM
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