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| I need help finding out how to allow a stranger (baby sitter) to keep my child, long enough for me to go to an OB GYN appt. alone. The past two times I took her with me. I stay at home with her and I can't bare the thought of someone else keeping her. I can't even find time to exercise during the day, then I sulk and dislike my self. I have a hard time finding activities involving other children that my daughter can participate in at 21 months old. I feel lost and alone alot of the times. People think your rich, you have so much free time, your lazy... all kinds of things when they find out you stay at home. I feel overwhelmed most of the time and then when I just don't feel like doing that load of laundry, I feel lazy. Please help! |
| Posted by Leslie on 09/02/2008 10:12 PM
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I'm assuming you live far away from family? I have that problem...all of my family lives at least an hour away. Thankfully I've made some friends who I trust to watch my son.
Have you tried meetup.com? They have tons of playgroups. You can search depending on where you live. You can also go to this website and do a search for moms groups in your area. http://www.momsclub.org/links.html
Sometimes it is okay to rest. I still nap when my son does, and I feel okay about that. You don't have to get everything done in one day. The laundry will be there tomorrow, but the most important thing is what you are doing for your daughter. You are providing her with the most amazing opportunity of being able to have her mommy home with her. Don't let anyone tell you different. Anyway, now I'm rambling. I hope this information helps. |
| posted by Bonnie on 09/02/2008 10:35 PM
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Hi Leslie,
Oh I can relate! I felt that way after my first child. I went from working 40 plus hours a week to being home full time....if your like I was, quite a change. If it's any consequence, I saw a "study" which estimated that SAHMs, IF paid would earn 130,000+ /year. Not surprising to any of us!! In terms of a babysitter, I'm kind of in your boat. I still haven't left our little ones (2 now) with a stranger, outside of preschool. If I were too, though, I know I would go through a service in town which checks people's backgrounds. Sorry, not much help there. However, in regards to activities with your little one, do you have a Moms Club in your town? It's a national club with local chapters run by Moms. It's fantastic! You get to meet Moms, let your little ones practice socialization skills and best of all......you get YOU time, too. They usually schedule activities every day of the work week. Usually focusing on free or low cost, as we are all SAHMs. Google for the national chapter and you should be able to check if one is in your vicinity.
Now, however I am building my own home business, which I love as well. It's with a great group of Moms who help, train and support each other as we build our businesses.....so we can be home to raise our children!!!! If you would like more information on that, feel free to send a message to me and I'll be happy to share.
In the meantime, hang in there, it does get better :) Oh, and by the way, you're not lazy, just human. |
| posted by Stacey on 09/02/2008 10:45 PM
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I feel the same the sad thing is, is that my DH works from home but his work is so stressful that he doesn't get time to even watch our daughter just so I can take a shower.
In my community we get a community education schedule from the schools for extra curriculum classes. There are the adult classes and the kid classes but there is also classes for mommy and baby. We are taking a diaper dancing class and at the library we are doing a baby and mommy class. They are once a week programs but you get out and meet other moms with kids the same age.
They also have programs that watch babies for a couple of hours for you to get a few things done.
I know how stressful it can be, I joined a meetup group and go to the park a lot just to get.
There is always something out there I almost gave up. Good Luck |
| posted by Kristhal on 09/03/2008 11:13 AM
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| Being a SAHM is the best job I've ever had. But, one of the things I've noticed is...it is easy to forget about yourself. Take a little time out of the day to do something for yourself, and don't feel guilty about a little nap every now and then. When I start to feel bad about taking a nap, I remember that I had to get up three times in the middle of the night, and that takes a big toll on you. |
| posted by kjhk on 09/04/2008 11:47 AM
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| Thank you all so much for your words of wisdom and encouragement. Our families don't live far away, only 15 and 30 minutes but they have their own lives and our daughter is not a priority to them. I have started looking in to the SAHM groups in my area and I am hoping to find what we both need. Thanks again for all your kindness. |
| posted by Leslie on 09/04/2008 02:36 PM
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