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| Thank you guys for the responses, I appreciate the willingness to lend an ear and maybe some opinions. I have been at work all weekend , so I have not had much opportunity till now to check e-mail. The issue that I am having has to do with tantrums, and not just your everyday frustrated or sleepy child tantrum. They are these awful screaming, hitting, kicking, can't seem to sooth him at all tantrums. I'm feeling a bit on the helpless side when it comes to figuring out what is upsetting my son so much, and if it is something that I am doing wrong when it comes to disciplining him. My husband and I have some different views when it comes to discipline, but we are working together with those issues. My husband has brought up that he thinks that maybe I am too easy on Wes, but I am not sure that that is the case - however if it is then that is something I need to figure out and correct. Does anyone know if these sort of tantrums are a usual thing for a 1.5 yr old boy, maybe I am just overly concerned? |
| Posted by Sarah on 08/25/2008 12:39 AM
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| Oakley started having tantrums a few months ago. They are not that bad but from all of my freinds who have children they say it is normal. I think a lot of it is not being able to communicate well yet. around that age it seems like they know what they want and do not know how to say it. I have Oakley learning a few signs and that seems to help. If you go to the ASL they have a page with baby signs. I use milk and water a lot as well as drink and eat or help. If you use them every time you say that word after a week or so they start to. So know when he starts to cry in the kitchen I ask him what he wants and he uses his signs. But sometimes he just throws himself on the floor and start crying if I don't let him play with what he wants. Then I just walk away as long as he is safe and if he does not have my attention he will get up and move on. He does bite to then we put him in his play pen for a minute as time out. I don't know if any of that will help you I just try different things and these are things that seem to work right know. Good luck I hope goes well. |
| posted by Jessica on 08/25/2008 11:36 AM
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| Tantrums are so hard, because you feel just as frusterated as your toddler. It is true that ALL toddlers (for the most part) go through this before they are able to communicate by speech. One thing that worked for me when I was going through the tanturm stage with my daughter was taking her by the hand and bringing her into different areas of the house ( first stop was always the kitchen). I'd ask her "Kasey, do you want something to eat or drink." Usually it was food or a toy or a tv show she wanted. But I would lead her to each area and have her try to tell me or signal to what she was wanting. This helped a lot and her tantrums pretty much stopped. Sometimes, if you find some form of communication that works (even if it's not talking) with your toddler they will stop throwing tantrums because the tantrums don't get them what they want. They will learn to depend on your form of communication. I also would suggest not egging on a tatrum. Make sure Wes is safe where he is and don't respond at all to his tantrum. you could walk away or you could just stand by him (not touching or comforting him) with a blank look in your face until he calms down. Once he clams down hold him and give hime lots of love. Explain that you want to get him the things he is wanting but he can't act like that). Set up your boundries and let him know what is acceptable and what isn't. |
| posted by Rebecca on 08/25/2008 02:50 PM
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