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Hi all,
I'm hoping that maybe some of you are experiencing a similar issue. I work about 50plus hrs a week. My job requires a mix of days, nights, and weekends. My husband is disabled, but takes care of the home. We have a 3yr old, but he goes to preschool in the daytime. All that being said I never get a break. I work 10hrs days at work, pick up my son, and when I get home I take care of our son while my husband makes dinner. (this part I don't mind...it's when I get my 1 on 1 time). After we put our son to bed I am expected to clean up the kitchen and straighten up the mess of the house. Since my husband has MS, at the end of the day he is exhausted from home duties and repairs, however, he then wants me to rub his feet!
I wouldn't be bitching right now except that on my days off.. my husband wants me to do the heavy duty cleaning of the house ( bathroom, dusting, etc...) . Since he is the stay at home parent he feels that I need to do my share around the house. Is it just me or is he nuts?! I just want every now and then to be able to sleep in, or lay around without having to run any errands. Is that too much to ask? |
| Posted by Nicole on 08/20/2008 09:38 PM
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Hi Nicole,
I don't think your wanting to lay down for a day is wrong at all. I'm not exactly sure what would hinder one from doing with MS, but it sounds that your hubby is able-bodied! Now lets think of it this way. If it was the other way around, meaning if you had MS and was a stay at home mom and he worked 50+ hrs, would he come home and do chores on top of tending to the child? Why can't he help you with the weekend chores? Why must it be all on you? Unless, because of his MS he can't do it?
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| posted by Eva on 08/21/2008 08:03 PM
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| Thank You! I'm not trying to play the game of who is the hardest working parent of the house. I just want to have some alone time, without feeling guilty that I don't get to spend 12hrs a day with our son. |
| posted by Nicole on 08/21/2008 08:37 PM
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Hi Nicole,
I know that MS can very as far as the individuals capabilities. What you are asking for is not unreasonable at all. I would suggest finding someone you can trust to come in and do the cleaning for you. I know a friend of mine that says it is the best investment she has ever made bringing in someone to clean for her. People that do this on their own are quite reasonable in price. So you will get some down time and your husband will be happy the housework is done. When you get the down time that you need it also helps you to be a good wife and mother to those you love the most! |
| posted by Melissa on 08/21/2008 08:47 PM
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