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akspeede

how do you find quality time if you work 2nd shift and you are over 40? and exhausted on your days off!!!!!
Posted by akspeede on 08/16/2008 07:29 PM

skye

Well it's certainly not easy working and being there fully for you kids but what do you mean by 2nd shift? Do you work late nights? It's hard work sometimes to do both and I understand the need and desire to just want to perhaps put them in front of the tv for a bit while you decompress. Truthfully I think tha'ts ok from time to time but I guess my take is well we decided to have these little ones so we have to try and do the best we can in terms of being there to play with them and spend quality time w/ them. I think you have to set aside some time for you &your chlid and then set aside a littel chunk of time just for you which is very importnatn and makes for a happy mom as well! Then maybe you won't feel badly when you know you've made some time for all. Good luck. I don't work the 2nd shift or any shift now and I ''m wiped out just w/ one so I truly cannot imagine how tired you must be. Best of luck! skye
posted by skye on 08/26/2008 03:25 PM

akspeede

Well Skye,

Thank you for your reply back in August of 08. I am just getting the chance to log into this website and see responses. My life was way to busy. 2nd shift is (1:00pm until 12:00 midnight) 4 days a week. Well that was back in august. I am proud to report that I am now a sahm (for the time being). I am more exhausted now then when I was working fulltime. My daughter is now three and she is making up for lost time and is still on a 2nd shift time clock. She has been this way since she was born. She would stand in her crib and wait for me to walk in the door at 12:45a. Now a days she is clinging to mommie and is by my side every waking hour. Making up for lost time (when she was with the babysitter or at daycare.

I do make time just for her (however she is having a hard time with solitary play. She wants someone to entertain her all the time. My baby sitters came to the house and both girls had small children who were her playmates for my daughter. Now that she has mom full time she can't get enough mommie time... I don't make time for me. it's hard some times.

posted by akspeede on 05/05/2009 12:29 AM

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