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on the talking issue have you talked with your pediatrition? they will beable to help, there are tests that they will do to see if it is a medical condition. as for the taking the diper off that is a sign that they are ready to be potty trained you will have to ask and ask and ask if he needs to go and don't be surprised if you have a wet floor now and then just keep asking and taking him in. is there a male around that he can go in with and watch? in my experience with my two and now with my nephews and girl friends son that helps alot. Hope this helps and keep me posted on the talking issue will ya please.
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| posted by Patrick on 08/12/2008 06:44 PM
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| hi there, sorry to hear about your son....I know what you feel and where you are coming from...my best friend's daughter is not talking either and it bothers her and her doc told to start seeing a speech therapist and it has not helped alot...the reason I say I know what it feels is because my sons walked at 29 months and I was worried and scared and broke from the therapist and eventually we gave up after 6months of trying (from 18 months) we even had a neurologist evaluate them. then one day they decided they want to walk and they are walking fine and talk fine and now their doc says they are right on track...One thing I do is watch pbs kids (elmo & super why etc) and it has helped alot, am stay at home and watch it faithfully and they started singing the songs and now they say the words of the show etc... I know some parents dont agree about TV even for 30 mins but it helped me....hope this helps, will keep you in my prayers...it is hard when you dont know how to help your child..Monica |
| posted by Monica on 08/12/2008 07:04 PM
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| ok so i have talked to his ped about it at his well baby check up. and he said he is a normal 2 year old because he can say some word like mama. but i am still worried about it because he will be 3 in april. and on the potty thing there isnt really a male roll modle for him so what do i doo |
| posted by megan on 08/12/2008 07:22 PM
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| With the language, you have to model as much as possible for your son. Example, in the store tell him what you are buying and name the itemsor when you are cooking tell him what you are doing. Continue to encourage him to repeat certain words and reading alot will help also. With the potty training, I'm there now with my 2 year old. I have the Elmo goes to potty book that he looks at while on the potty. You could try the pull-ups with the potty and praise him like "crazy" when he does go in the potty. |
| posted by Makina on 08/12/2008 09:44 PM
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| i have tryed the pull ups thing he just takes them off he just loves to be naked |
| posted by megan on 08/13/2008 02:07 AM
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I have two suggestions as far as the speech part. Do you have a headstart program in your area? You might be able to contact them, and see if they could give you direction as far as speech help.
Also, have you tried sign language with him? Even if it is your own little made up signs. Like for drink round your hand and tilt your head along with your hand as though you are drinking, and saying drink. Of course if he is ever trying to communicate with you and you are unsure to ask him to show you. Maybe once he is able to communicate with you in one way, he would realize life is a little easier, and that would encourage talking?
As far as potty training? Have you checked out the Dr. Phil potty training in one day? That is how I trained my last child, not really in one day, but, it was less than a week.
Good luck, and keep us posted!!
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| posted by Karen on 08/13/2008 05:58 AM
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Hello Megan,
Check around to see if you have an Early Intervention program in your area. I had my son evaluated, and he needed it, so they set us up with one visit a week with a speech therapist who would come to our house and work with him. In our area, early intervention ends at the age of 3, so my son now will go to the local preschool handicap class. I was unsure about him going, but after meeting the teacher, and asking lots of questions, I know that this is going to be a great thing for him.
I also have used PBS kids as an extra model for my son. He Loves TV, so I chose shows that would help him, such as Word World, Super Why, Sesame Street, etc.
I can relate with the potty training, because my youngest son, 22 months, is doing the same thing. He's being stripping since we started training my older son. He wants to use the potty, however once in the bathroom, it becomes a play place. Switching from the big potty to the little potty chair, using the stool to 'wash' his hands. If I had all day to just allow him to stay naked, in the bathroom, maybe he's be trained by now....
Well, good luck
BTW, about the pediatrician, if you don't feel comfortable with your answer from them, then take your child to get a second opinion, like early intervention, a local speech therapist, or even your local school system. |
| posted by Steph on 08/13/2008 07:13 AM
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| My son also wasn't talking very well when he turned 3. He was talking somewhat but just jibberish and you really couldn't understand him. We took him to the dr and they did a hearing test and speech evaluation on him. Come to find out that he had so much fluid in his ears that he was only hearing about 50% or less. He never had an ear infection or anything but according to the dr it looked like the fluid has been there for a really long time. Our pediatrician never mentioned it because his ears weren't infected. We got the surgery 2 months later to put tubes in his ears and they also removed tonsils and adnoids. Within a month he said mommy for the first time and he finally said his name. He has come along way in the past 6 months. We also are putting him in preschool a year early and he is going to be working one on one with a teacher at the local preschool on speech so that he can get up to where he is supposed to be with learning and speaking. He doesn't know colors, abc's numbers none of that yet. You can do that thru the state if you child is behind and they pay for it all. I hope this helps. I would definitely start with the speech and hearing tests first. |
| posted by Tiffany on 08/13/2008 10:44 AM
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Have not had to much time to read thru others posts...BUT.
I wanted to put my two cents in....
Have you had his hearing checked? The only reason I ask is that my 2nd son did not talk to much either....he also had a lot of ear infections...the doctor said he had been hearing the world like the the teachers from Charlie Brown?! Very muffled.
Once he had his tubes put in, his passage ways were clear and he could hear much better....he has not been quiet since!!
As far as the potty training....bribe, bribe,bribe!! Stickers, m&m's, any type of reward that suits you and HIM.
I have 3 boys and it worked for all 3....best of luck to you.
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| posted by Anna on 08/13/2008 02:09 PM
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| ok so i dont think he has that fluid in his ear he can hear me even if i talk to him quiet but the thing is he can say mama and he waves and say by but not the full word and he points at things that he wants but he doesnt tell he so what can i do maybe there is a mom out there by me who can come by and c him to help me |
| posted by megan on 08/13/2008 05:28 PM
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| Oh my gosh Megan!! I thought I was reading something I wrote... My son turns 3 in December, he isn't really talking that much either.. Got his hearing tested, and went to a speech pathologist.. Everyone said he was fine.. I understand a lot that he says, but there is still a great bit I don't. My daughter was talking in sentences at age 2!! Girls develope faster than boys like that.. My son walked sooner than my daughter, climb up stairs sooner, fed himself sooner, ran before my daughter so their skills are different.. My daughter was also potty train at 2 yrs old in 4 days.. My son, isn't even that intrested.. He takes his diaper off all the time also. He will sit on the potty but nothing happens. And like you he can't tell me if he needs to go because he doesn't talk much and doesn't get the concept yet.. I have just been told boys take longer on those kinds of things.. And the Dr.'s said he was okay.. Yes there are exceptions on boys talking really early but, some just aren't talkers until they are ready.. Don't worry!! |
| posted by Suzanne on 08/20/2008 04:14 PM
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I would go to your pediatrician and TELL him you are concerned and you want him evaluated.Do not ask and Do not give up until he gives you what you want. My 21 month old is also not talking, he has 7-10 words. MY pediatrician told me that if by his 2nd bday if he does not have 15-20 words and putting 2 words together in "sentences" she would send us to a speech pathologist. You can also try looking into Early Steps, an early intervention program that provides speech whereever your child is (including at home). Or another early intervention program in your area. But really if your Ped. wont send you, get another one! After all its not HIS money you would be spending if it turns out he is a "normal" 2 yo! If he wont send you to a specailist when you come in a say you are worried he's not doing his job!!! As parents it is our responsiblity to be our children's voice! Be a squeaky wheel!
As far as potty training... Most boys are not potty trained until sometime between 2 1\2 and 3 1\2. If he is pulling off his diaper that is a good sign he is ready. But dont freak out because my oldest ( now 5) was 2 months shy of 4 before he finally got it. With my 2nd this is what I did. NO MORE DIAPERS!! (except naps and night!) Take him to the store to pick out his big boy underwear, let him pick himself. (put two choices in front of him and he will point at one!!) Then explain that he is a big boy and has to wear big boy underwear. Take him to sit on the potty every 20-30 minutes. You will probably have to tell him how to go and even give him cues after he's gone a couple of times. I usually tell him to push his belly in or push his teetee out. He WILL potty on the floor! and he will probably do it a lot. My son will come up to me a pull on his weinie (or point to it) and grunt so just because he is non verbal doesnt mean he wont tell you once he figures out what he is supposed to do. If you can stay home for a few days ( 5 or 6 is best but a weekend might work too if you work) and get the idea in his head then he might be able to continue at day care (or whereever) as long as whoever he is with knows what you are doing and is willing to help. DO NOT USE PULL UPS. to a two year old that is a diaper! Even the ones that help them "feel" its still a diaper! Also dont alternate between diapers and underwear. that will confuse them. You can also give him a reward for going potty (a sticker or m&m) I dont personally believe that a 2yo has the memory to make a sticker chart effective, but that is just me. If he doesn't catch on in about a week you should probably wait a while. If you try to force him or make it a fight it will just end up being a control issue and you really wont get anywhere! Hope this helps! |
| posted by Ashley on 08/24/2008 09:36 PM
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Hello, I am new to this group.
I just read your issues, and the only thing I can say to put my 2 cents in is my nephew is 2 1/2, and he hardly talkes also. Plus he calls things wrong. Like he calls balls Josh. He has a cousin named Josh, don't know why he calls balls Josh though, and he calls cars zazoos. Sorry for spelling, but how do you spell a word that is not a word. His doctor says he is fine. The big problem with him is that he has a sister that is 6 and she talks for him. I don't know if you have any other kids or not, but the second child almost always does that. The older talks for them so they just don't talk. It does not mean that they don't know the words or whatever, they just don't need to talk when someone else is doing it for them.
Another idea besides the hearing is to have his eyes checked. Sounds crazy, but I have heard of kids that started talking after finding out that their eye sight was bad and correcting it. I have no idea how this would work, but it is worth a shot.
My son is only 10 months old, so that is all the help I can possibly offer, and no help with the potty training. Good luck. |
| posted by Kim on 08/25/2008 01:38 AM
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| The potty training.. I'm blessed that mine caught on. But My first I used just a tic tac toe paper in the bathroom, his own toilet He went with me, wehn he sat down and "peed" he praised him did a silly potty song and let him put a sticker on the paper. I also got him potty books. When it cam to poop he always went to the same corner so when i saw him i would take him to the potty and sorry bout the gross stuff but i would tell him "ok go like this and squeeze a fart out, and make fart noises" it worked! he know how to go... then with my second son now 2 he also liked to sit on the potty with me and when he kept taking his diapers off i told him ALRIGHT Your ready for big boys underwear, he picked out his own and wore them, he didn't like getting himself or undies wet so he learned pretty quick. |
| posted by on 08/25/2008 09:57 AM
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I am going through the same thing with my son. Charlie is 31 mths old and says a few words but no where what he should be saying. I asked my pediatrician about it and he said boys speak later and the fact that he was 7 weeks early, but I knew something just wasn't right. I contacted early intervention myself and he was diagnosed with a speech delay. He begins sessions with a speech therapist tomorrow and he will see him 2x a week at home and 1 day a week at his pre-school which he started today. He is an only child and the only time he gets to be around other kids is at the park.
My suggestion is to contact early intervention. They will set up an evaluation at your home where he is most comfortable (at least that is what they did where I live) and let you know if they feel there is an issue that needs to be corrected. I also took him to a developmental pediatrician.
It just drives me crazy that when I worked ( I taught children with autism) I had no problems teaching them and I can't get my own son to be where he should be.
Please keep me posted I will send you my personal e-mail in a msg. |
| posted by Rae on 09/02/2008 08:16 PM
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Hi.
I had the same problem. We did a few things with great success. We spent hours with him talking about things...but very slowly. We realized that he couldn't catch what we were saying at normal pace. Also - we placed him right into speech therapy - he had a few speech issues (though he is a brilliant kid), Our ped. dr. said wait until kindergarten. My feeling is that is too late. Find a really good speech therapy place - visit and watch how they do it. Best to have a place where you can watch and hear through a one-way mirror. The therapist should be kind and understand how to keep the child motivated for a 1/2 hour or so. We did this 2-3x a week. He was all fixed in 6 months. I believe he became a much better reader because of this. He is INCREDIBLY verbal now - you can't shut him up. Do not let this go. |
| posted by ann on 10/02/2008 11:25 AM
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| You are right to be concerned! i didn't realize there was a problem until my sons doctor told me that he should have had several different two word combinations that he used regularly. I was a bit astounded. By the time he had speech and hearing testing done, he was 2 1/2 and getting a speech therapist that came to the house once a week for an hour that worked like mad on him! She was through the school district, and the school paid for the services. By the time he turned 3 they had him in a developmental preschool program that he is still in now, and will be for another year before kindergarden. He just turned 4 and seems to be right on track as far as speech goes. BUT YES YES YES! Having a boy who doesnt talk (despite best efforts) makes it nearly impossible to potty train....my son is four and I am still STRUGGLING GRRRrrrr! |
| posted by Darnell on 10/04/2008 10:35 AM
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