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| What age is the proper age to actually mean no when you say it? Alicia is 8 months old now and if I say no sternly to her she will just give me a HUGE smile and go right back to what she was doing. I have read that they are too young to remember what they are and are not supposed to do at this age. Any ideas? |
| Posted by Jeanna on 05/24/2007 06:50 AM
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| I wonder the same thing about my 8 month old-what is important is that you use "no" with a stern voice for things that are very dangerous that should be listened to. What I have started doing is if she starts playing with an electric cord or biting me when she's nursing (which is so dangerous for me!! :) I will look her in the eye, tell her no very firmly, and remove her from the situation. Sometimes I have to do it 4 or 5 times, but eventually she will learn. She might forget the next day, but I just remind her again. I think you always want your child to know that when you say "no" that you mean it, no matter how old they are. Hope this helps? I really have no clue what to do either--I'm interested to see what other people say! |
| posted by Briana on 05/24/2007 06:58 AM
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hi jeanna. i just started sayning no to my 8month because he tries to buck off and twist off the changing table. i get a different reaction -my boy gets upset when i use my stern voice and starts to cry. BUT he stops doing what he is doing. i think this is the right time to start saying no, especially, i agree, to things they do which could be harmful.
this is my second child, my first would just look at me when i would say no, so each child may react differently but doesn't mean they are'nt internalizing the lesson.:) |
| posted by Andrea R. on 05/24/2007 09:38 AM
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I think that even if they are too young to understand, you should tell them no when it is a safety issue. Discipline needs to start from the very beginning and be consistent. Your tone and expression will help her understand what you mean. I think the important thing is not to overuse it. Reserve no for the most important things, like safety concerns.
When Jack pulls my glasses off I tell him No in a firm voice, no smile, and remove his hand. He usually stops after repeating this 2or 3 times. I don't think he understands no, but he can tell I don't like what he is doing, so he stops.
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| posted by Marcia on 05/24/2007 09:41 AM
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| just keep redirecting her into doing something else. Have you slapped her hands? Get the Supernanny books they work wonders and she talks about her age. |
| posted by Laura on 05/24/2007 09:55 AM
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| Letting your child know that something is not okay with you at any age is fine. But it will be sometime before she even realize what you are saying. I agree with the other ladies to especially use no in safety situations followed with a short reason why this behavior is unacceptable. Redirection is still your best bet for things that are not to serious. You can also use a word such as stop for less serious things. This will help you later when all your child will say to you is no back to assert her independence later on. Good luck! |
| posted by Andrea on 05/24/2007 10:30 AM
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| My son is almost 9 months old and he still just smiles and goes back to what he's doing, at this stage you just have to redirect them. |
| posted by christina on 05/24/2007 11:23 AM
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| Wow thanks everyone! I really appreciate the feedback! :) |
| posted by Jeanna on 05/24/2007 12:13 PM
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| I agree with the other moms, my son is 11 months and I started telling him no when he started crawling and getting into everything. At first it did not phase him but now he is starting to understand and stops whatever he is doing, at least for a little while :). I think it just takes time and like all kids they are testing to see what they can get away with. |
| posted by Heather on 05/25/2007 11:57 PM
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