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| My 3 year old, who is a preemie, just doesn't want to mind us at all. No matter what form of punishment we use (just time out and spankings), it doesn't seem to work. Any advice? Thanks. |
| Posted by angelbaby23 on 08/07/2008 10:17 PM
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| My daughter started back-talking when she was three. Now she's 4 1/2 and it hasn't gotten much better. We get the "attitude" a lot. We just started taking away things that mean a lot to her, such as computer games, trips to my mom's house. etc. Good luck! I'm constantly told that it doesn't get better with girls... |
| posted by Rich on 08/07/2008 10:45 PM
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Hello well, my daughter is only 16 months old. I have many years of experience with children, and am working on my degree in early childhood/elementary education. Have you tried a reward chart? Make a chart of what you expect from her, examples being: make bed, brush teeth, pick up toys, listen to mommy and daddy, take a nap/rest, remembered to wash hands, played well with siblings, help set the table etc. It's important to put on the list some things she is really good at. Then make sure she understands everything that you expect from her. (She of course will need reminding..she is only 3!) There are a couple ways to do this, you can reward a few times a day, where she will be able to earn 3 stickers or at the end of the day before bed, where she will earn 1sticker. Because she is 3 you're probably better off doing it 3x a day or so. Either way discuss everything that happened. And "decide" if she should get a sticker for her behavior. When she gets to a certain amount of stickers she can pick a prize out the the prize box. (This could be anything really, a little toy, a special snack, go to a dollar store to fill the box.) Always remember to praise everything she does well, even if it is small. "You are being very patient, thank you", "I love the way you are playing with your siblings". Give her a warning or remind her of the chart if she starts to loose focus.
If you don't want to do stickers, you could do coins or something. Start out with a certain amount and when she disobeys she loses one. At the end of the day the number of coins she has left will earn her something special. Whether it be playing a game with mommy, doing something special with daddy, going to the park, getting ice cream, it doesn't have to be extreme just something to let her know she is behaving appropriately and you are proud of her. It is very important that if you use the coin method to never take her last coin away, because that will give her nothing to work towards!
I hope some of this helps you. Good Luck and let me know how it goes! |
| posted by Amanda on 08/07/2008 11:33 PM
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| Hello my name is Ruthy and I am the mother of five girls ages now 24-14. I am also a fomer educator of 19 years. One of my girls went from terrible two's to horrible three's and I finally came up with something that worked for her. I ignored the behaviors that would not cause her or her sisters any danger and I started observing her and rewarding her when she did something good. I placed a chart at eye level and every time that I caught her doing something good I would give her a sticker to put on the chart and praised her. At the end of the day I rewarded her with something special like bringing her toys into her bubble bath and so forth. She eventually started catching on to the fact that her when she was good she got my attention and when she was not, I ignored her. It took about two weeks and her behavior changed dramatically. I hope this helps :) |
| posted by Ruthy on 08/07/2008 11:58 PM
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