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| Hello there, my 13 month old son is biting and I'm not really sure what to do. He's been biting for a couple of months now and I'm saying "no" in a stern voice, and I'm immediately putting him down (if I'm holding him) and walk away so that he understands that I don't like that behavior, but he thinks its a game. Only a few times has he really gotten it when I've put him down 3 times in a row, he cries and then the last time he walks over to me he doesn't try to bite. It seems that he's only biting me and not necessarily anyone else (not sure why). At his 1 year check up my pedi said it was really important to break them of any "agressive" behaviors by the time they are 15 months. He said that my son doesn't realize he's hurting anyone, but if we don't stop it now, it might get worse as he gets older. His suggestion, was to put him in his room and shut the door because being away from mom is the worst punishment for a child his age and is similar to a timeout. I'm just not prepared to put him in is room and shut the door yet. I'm hoping other moms have had similar issues with biting and can provide some insight on what they are doing/did to stop the behavior. Thanks! |
| Posted by Amy on 08/04/2008 12:48 PM
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Hi!
I could be totally wrong, but I think 13 months is a little young to punish by closing the child in their room, too. Is it definitely aggressive? If it isn't a teething symptom, maybe you could try "time out" by putting him in a pack n' play w/o toys for a few minutes. Enough to know you disapprove of the biting. |
| posted by Jade on 08/04/2008 01:10 PM
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| Hi Amy. My daughter is 16 months old although she didn't go through the biting phase (as of yet...knock on wood!) she did hit (not so much anymore). I would tell her no hitting in a firm voice and set her down. If she did it again I would repeat myself, if she did a 3rd time (in a close amount of time) I would put her in her crib for 1 min. with the door open. In a calm voice I would tell her that because she continued to hit mommy (daddy or sammy (the dog) after I told her no, she now has to sit by herself. After 1 min I would go back in. I would say mommy put you in time out because you hit. We do not hit. It is not nice. R u ready to be a nice girl? She says yes (lol most of the time, when she says no i ask her if she wants to stay in her bed and take it from there) and I take her out. I repeat no hitting, and then tell her i love her and give her a big hug and kiss. This has worked really well for me. I hope you find something that works for you. good Luck and keep me posted! |
| posted by Amanda on 08/04/2008 01:28 PM
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| I have a mom friend whose son bites and he is the exact same age as your son. He has bit my other friends' daughter so bad that it left welts and bruises on her body. I don't think she does the best job of disciplining him though because whenever he bites she tries to play it off as a kiss or that the kids are "hugging". This infuriates me because her child is really tormenting the other kids, which they didn't ask to be in the situation in the first place. It sounds like you are doing all the right things though but I would definitely try time out. My son has only bit me once and only me but it was during a period when my husband was out of town. I think he was acting out against me. What I did was stick him in time out (a corner in our house devoid of toys or anything distracting and I strap him into a booster seat for 1 minute (his age). Yes, he cries and doesn't like it but afterwards he never bit me again and whenever he acts up this REALLY WORKS to stop it in its tracks!! |
| posted by Heather on 08/04/2008 03:55 PM
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| posted by Kim on 08/04/2008 06:56 PM
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| thank you everyone. I like the idea of using a chair in the corner with the booster seat since a 1 year old won't actually just sit in the corner. I'll try it and see how it works. Thanks again! |
| posted by Amy on 08/07/2008 11:55 AM
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Hi. My 10 month old son has been biting me since he started teething 5 months ago and I can't seem to get him to understand it hurts. I say "no biting" sternly and sometimes yell in pain while taking him away but that hasn't worked. He thinks it's funny sometimes which adds to my frustration. I thought by now he would've learned to stop. I offer him toys he can chew as an alternative but I guess there's nothing like sinking your teeth into flesh!
I'm going to try a time-out in his crib to try to get the point across. I'll let you know how it goes... |
| posted by KRISTA on 08/15/2008 11:07 AM
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| I, like you other ladies, have a 13 month old son who likes to bite. I do the same thing that Amy does: tell him no in a very stern voice, put him down and walk away. The problem I have found with disciplining a 13 month old is that they do not really understand discipline yet. It is very obvious to me that he is not able to read facial expressions yet because if I have a stern look on my face while telling him no, he laughs. The only time it really affects him is if he's feeding and he bites my nipple...when he gets pulled off, sat down and told no, the water works really begin. From what I understand from all of my friends who have biters, it's just a phase. As long as the parent stays consistent with a firm no, and discontinuation of holding, feeding, etc..the child eventually comes to understand that this is not acceptable behavior. |
| posted by Allison on 08/27/2008 04:22 PM
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