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| I have a 15-month old that is showing signs of the terrible 2's. She has always been stubborn. We call her our "drama queen". The past couple of weeks we have noticed that she is getting worse at listening and throwing tantrums. I blame myself because I haven't asked her to do more (pick up toys) and now I am trying to fix it. I haven't really asked her before because she chooses what to listen to and tends to ignore me. With two other kids, I end up doing it myself to just have it done. I'm sure she is just reacting to the change. Any ideas on how I can make it easier for her and myself? |
| Posted by Becky on 07/24/2008 12:12 PM
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Hey Becky,
I hope someone reading does have a good suggestion. We're in the exact same boat, but, my 15 mon. old is a boy. He is definitely exibihating behavior I did not see in my older 2 ( 5&4) like climbing on top of his highchair tray, throwing toys, hitting and throwing tantrums. I'm positive he picks alot of it up from my older 2 and I do my best to explain to them that they are his example but, kids are going to be kids , so basically I'm getting no where fast in changing the babies behavior so I could use help as well. |
| posted by Sarah on 07/24/2008 02:24 PM
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| what i have done is start picking toys up and start saying can you put this in the toy box |
| posted by judi on 07/24/2008 08:31 PM
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| My daughter has really responded to the clean up clean up everybody every where song, and now she will only clean up when you sing it and unfortunately you have to keep singing it until she is done, but the plus side she is cleaning up. The tantrums I think are just a phase my daughter is 22 months and started throwing them a few months ago and we just try to ignore them however, when the get excessive she will be told that she isn't acting like a big girl and sorry to offend anybody, but she gets her butt spanked when she is not listening to mommy and daddy. Good luck. |
| posted by naomi on 07/24/2008 08:58 PM
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I have a 21 month old, the baby in the family. He is a very determined, independant, & stubborn little guy! He wants what he wants, when he wants it! He will come alongside his older brother, of 14 months, during clean up time, and he knows how to make it look good, but he never puts anything away! I caught on, and when I leave a couple toys out for him to put away, I get the wonderful, every parent loves it, answer, "NO"! So, I just keep repeating, like a broken record, what I expect of him, so we can move on to play or go to something else. I thank my older son for cleaning up, we also sing clean up songs. And when Lincoln FINALLY puts a toy away, I make a huge deal about it, praising asnd thanking him, and telling him we can now play with...
It does take LOTS of time, and most days we don't have LOTS of time, and it does get frustrating, and he has gotten his little bottom popped for not being very nice. But I have also seen, on a rare few occassions, where he will dump toys out, and put them back, while singing "clean up, clean up", then he'll dump again, and repeat the process! So, you are probably not doing anything wrong, you just have a wonderfully intelligent, indepenant daughter. Keep doing what you know in your heart is right for your family and her. You can make clean up a game, or a race, see who can pick up 1 toy, then 3 toys, so on and so on.
Here is one of our clean up songs...sung to the tune of London Bridges
'I see (child's name) cleaning up, cleaning up, cleaning up
I see (child's name) cleaning up, and putting toys away!'
You can also change 'putting toys away' to 'putting (name the specific item being cleaned up)
Example: 'I see Lincoln cleaning up, cleaning up, cleaning up
I see Lincoln cleaning up and putting the ball away!' Then follow it with a praise/thank you...'You put that ball back where it belongs. What a big helper, thank you!'
Good luck! |
| posted by Steph on 08/02/2008 09:03 AM
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