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| My little girl is almost 2 and she has started to touch her "youknowwhat". should i just continue to let her do it or should i teach that it is bad? i don't know. |
| Posted by Tina on 07/21/2008 09:48 PM
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Hi there.... first off, why is it "bad?" From psychology, there is much evidence and research that babies are interested in their privates wayyy early on, some even in the womb. I think that if you teach her its "bad" then she will come out being weird about her own sexuality, which God designed for her and every one of us, or go all out. My daughter has just started that and she is only 13 months, but I just tell her those are her privates, and until she is able to understand more, I will leave it at that. As she gets older, I will tell her that is for her only until she is married, and other than her parents cleaning her diaper area, no one else should be touching her there except her. I know that sounds weird, but I have been hearing how early kids need to learn about privacy and their own bodies, and also about others overstepping their boundaries. Does that makes sense? I heard on the radio once on a Christian broadcast that you teach them to know that whatever their bathing suit covers is not to be touched by anyone. (obviously as parents we will, to clean them).
I know too many kids who are shamed about their body parts and what is emerging in them as they grow. Nothing good seems to come out of that shame. I'm not saying you would do that, but I was sparked when you said "teaching her that it is bad."
Hope this helps! |
| posted by Kaulana on 07/21/2008 10:48 PM
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| I am a psychology student, and many women espaecially are extremely self consience about sex and their bodies, b/c we were told it is bad, or nasty. i practically raised my sister and when she was in that stage i would just tell her the same thing. it is hers, and it is her private areas that no one is allowed to touch. of course she was trying to touch herself everywhere, so i would just distract her if we were out, or direct her to her room or the bathroom. she will get the hang of it without having to outright tell her and here the question WHY? later. she will just think that that is how it is done. it worked for me with my sister and i plan on doing the same thing with my daughter. good luck |
| posted by melissa on 07/25/2008 11:00 AM
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There are some books out there for girls ( preteens ) but it may be a good idea if your daughter is doing it that early...to maybe read the book yourself so you can be ready later. I have not read them myself=) but will soon after I read the other 10 books of Dr.,...this and that=)lol anyways... I was told it is "American Girl Library" they sell it even at Albertsons in the book section. Or just find one similar? And you can keep it so when your daughter gets older she can read herself. Tells her about her private areas, how to clean them, etc...
Good luck! There is more to come=) |
| posted by Margaret on 07/25/2008 11:15 AM
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