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Hi my name is Martha Wilson and I have an almost 2 year old little boy named Michael (2 in August). I was wondering if anyone has any advise on dealing with an extremely wide open little boy? I have been having an extremely difficult time trying to figure out the best strategy that will work for him. My husband who is very much the authoritative figure says that I need to spank him. I honestly don't feel like that would work but I am starting to think it might be the only way. I think he is definitely getting mixed messages and at this point has figured out that he can get away with a lot more with mom than he can with dad.
My next dilemma is potty training. I have tried this for several weeks and he does not seem to show much interest. I bought him a potty that sits on the floor . Whenever I sit him down he instantly stands back up. I am wondering if he would do better with one that sits on the toilet. My nephew that turned 2 in June is peeing in the potty and since they are together everyday at my mother-in-law's I was hoping that he would show more of an interest. I know you are not supposed to compare children but I am having a difficult time not doing that. Thanks so much for your help!
Martha Wilson |
| Posted by Martha on 07/21/2008 11:47 AM
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you concern on potty training.. My little boy is 29 mos and has just started an interest in the potty. He is peeing but not going poo in the potty yet. My Pedi (which I think highly of) says for boys its usually between 2 1/2 and 3 1/2. So I think your little one is to young unless he is showing an interest, if he starts seeming to want to use the potty then you jump all over it, get him a reward system, do a dance for him when he goes whatever it takes to get him motivated. I tried with my son earlier just because there were other kids his age doing it and it put to much pressure on him and he had no interest it made him take two steps back rather than two steps forward so I wouldn't compare him to others and just watch for him to show an interest. I would mention it to my son like I would say, "Do you want to try and use the potty today?... You'll get some M&M's, and after a month or so, he agreed and has been doing it for two weeks now. So he is making progress everyday, I couldn;t get him to wear Pull ups last week but he has agreed this week and maybe by next week or the next he will put on some big boy underwear, its a process just remember, it doesn't happen in one day.
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| posted by amy on 07/21/2008 12:23 PM
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| Thanks for your advise. I guess I will hold off until he shows more of an interest. |
| posted by Martha on 07/21/2008 12:31 PM
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Sorry no advice for the potty training, my son will be 2 in Sept... I'm in the same boat... he only goes when he feels like it. Haven't had the chance to be more consistent with his 3 mo. old sister in the picture, but as for discipline....
I'd hold off on the spanking, at this age, if you show agression it seems to teach them when your mad you hit, and you don't want ur son being the playground bully. So if it's something dangerous or just flat out rebellion I have a wooden spoon that I tap his hand with. Its been months since I've had to do it. I put him in his room and close the door. Or I distract him something else to do. For me, I just have to keep him busy and he's well behaved. Removing him from whatever he's doing wrong works for now. Save the spanks for when u know for sure they know why it has come down to that punsihment!
Best of luck! |
| posted by Candice on 07/22/2008 02:27 PM
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