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| I'm new to Raising Them. I do belong to a mothers' group (actually I'm the President of it) -- but I thought this might be a nice resource to find parents of other "only children." There really aren't too many moms in my group that do have only children -- and I have come to find that they are definitely a unique challenge. It will be nice to talk to other parents who get it. |
| Posted by DawnB on 07/21/2008 08:30 AM
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Hi Dawn we also have 1 child for know we are working on #2 ...u are right having one is difficult as well. Trying to give so much attention to them is draining for sure.
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| posted by laura on 07/21/2008 09:21 AM
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| Yeah -- they are incredibly demanding of your attention -- especially at this toddler stage. With no other siblings to play with or entertain them, you, as the parent, are their only playmate!!!! Some days it's great --- others, absolutely exhausting! It's wonderful being the center of her world, but on the other hand it is so tiring. But, I wouldn't change her for the world! |
| posted by DawnB on 07/21/2008 09:27 AM
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I agree that it can be exhausting to entertain them but that's what playdates are for thankfully! To try & combat feeling like that all the time, I try and set up playdates for most days of the week even if it's just for an hour or so but I think it's important for them to interact & connect with other children their own age. I also cherish the times we spend alone as well, they're special and wonderful (most of the time) but the playdates benefit us both greatly!
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| posted by skye on 08/12/2008 01:09 AM
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| I try to schedule as much stuff as I can with my mothers' group as well. That's one of the reasons I joined it -- to give her the opportunity to interact and socialize with other kids. But, even with that sometimes I notice that she'll just play off to the side by herself -- unless the children she's playing with make a strong effort to engage her. I worry sometimes that I may be doing her a disservice by not having any more children. |
| posted by DawnB on 08/12/2008 06:27 AM
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Once I read this post, I realized that although there are things I second guess or wish I'd done differently for Sara, having another child is not one of them.
I know lots of onlies and they are all smart, independent and have strong bonds with others. I know that as Sara grows older, she'll form her own friendships and some of them will become family to her. I don't think she'll be any worse off for not having siblings. |
| posted by Sara'sMom on 08/31/2008 11:53 PM
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Hi there, I also am a parent of an only child.. he's 13 years old. It certainly has been a challenge, however it does get easier a bit, now that he's older, however I do wish i would have had another child so he wouldn't be lonely.
understand your plight. how old is your child.?
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| posted by Laura on 11/11/2008 08:43 PM
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Sara is 2-1/2 -- today actually... We've pretty much made the decision to not have any more. Financially we just feel overwhelmed as it is (since I am a SAHM) and I'm not exactly young myself anymore.
She's getting a little better giving me some time while she entertains herself -- for very small stretches -- but after a while, especially if I'm in the same room and not giving her the attention she wants then she starts to act up. I'm getting better at managing it.
As for feeling I am doing her a disservice; sometimes I wonder. I am an only child myself and I know all the stress and heartache that I have had to deal with on my own these past two years with my father being gravely sick. I often wished that I had a sibling that could share in my burden and we could be comfort for each other.
That's kind of where I'm coming from right now... |
| posted by DawnB on 11/11/2008 08:52 PM
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| Hi Dawn. Do you wish you had a brother or sister to help you take care of your parents? That is what I'm worried about. I'm concerned with my son being the only one to bear the load when my husband and I get older. But, I'm not sure if that is a reason to have another one, when that is the only reason. Any advice? |
| posted by Bonnie on 11/24/2008 11:45 AM
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