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| I am due with our second baby September 2 and have a son that is now 19 months. Reilley (my son) has not gotten used to sleeping by himself in his own bed yet and I am a little worried as to what I will do once the new baby arrives. My husband already complains about not having enough room with Reilley in the bed, and I don't really have much room either with my growing belly, but I would prefer to have Reilley sleep with us and me actually get to sleep, then to have him up crying all night because he doesn't want to sleep alone. I guess if anyone has any advice please let me know. I don't agree with letting him cry it out for a few nights in his own bed like some people have suggested to me. |
| Posted by maura on 07/17/2008 04:21 PM
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Hi Maura,
I sympathize with your situation as my wife and I are personal believers in the "co-sleeping" technique. I often think about what it would be like when our second child arrives. Currently, we have our bed and our daughters crib with the (rail gaurd down pushed together), to ease the transition of sleeping in her crib. Its stayed in this position for months and we love the way its worked out. It gives us our own bed back with the benefit of having our daughter Kamryn near. I imagine that if another child were to just magically appear (haa), we would then either try to put Kamryn's crib in her own room or just upgrade to a king size bed? I just don't know how well that would work out with a newborn waking up sporatically through the night and waking up our 15 month old upsetting her as well. Its a tough dilemma but I'm sure you'll find the right method. Hope my comment at least sparked some ideas... |
| posted by JC on 07/17/2008 04:38 PM
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| I have three children and have run into this problem many times. Ariel (the oldest slept with us until she was 15 months then moved into a toddler bed in our room. Our second child, Will, was born one month later and slept with us until he was about 6 months. He is a very independent child and wanted his own space. We moved him into the crib in the nursery and put Ariel's toddler bed in there with him. They slept great! However, I never just laid them down to fall asleep on their own. I always rocked or cuddled them until they fell asleep. When will was eight months old, I became pregnant with our youngest child, David. Before David was born Will was also in a toddler bed. I moved Ariel into what was once the play room and left Will in the nursery. The baby is now 3 months old and sleeps with us. Will and Ariel sleep in seperate rooms and fall asleep on their own with no problem. They are now 3 years and 20 months. |
| posted by Jamie on 07/17/2008 06:26 PM
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| We're expecting our second at the end of August and I was so worried about this. We got a twin bed for Jake (24 months) in his room and after I get him to sleep I'll lay him down there. The down side is that he still wakes up in the night at least once, but he'll call out to me and I can go comfort him back to sleep. And then of course he's in our bed by morning. It's been a gradual process, but it's working for us. I've spent a lot of nights falling asleep in his bed only to wake up a couple of hours later and return to my bed, so at times it's not the most restful! I am concerned about how I'll be able to manage two little ones though after the baby comes if I'm running from one bed to the other! Good luck in finding what works for your family. |
| posted by gia on 07/17/2008 11:33 PM
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| This is a sticky situation. My 15 month old sleeps with us and I am 5 1/2 months preg. We began putting our son in his crib, in his room for naps. and at the beginning of bedtime about 3 weeks ago. He seems pretty cool with this so far. He has not yet slept all the way through the night in his own crib. He usually wakes up crying at about 1:30am, and I go get him and bring him into our bed. I'm going to phase this out eventually. I just have not done so yet because I know it's going to take a couple a nights of him screaming his head off until he goes back to sleep. Since my husband is the only one working right now, I don't want to put him through the sleepless nights this is going to cause. We're waiting for a good weekend when my husband does not work to employ 'operation stay in the crib all night'. |
| posted by Allison on 10/27/2008 01:32 AM
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| You can't really expect your son to take it well or even understand when you tell him 'you need to sleep quietly in your bed because mommy has a new baby coming'. There's going to be some crying, it's not logical to think he's going to be alright with this. If you try to start putting him in his own bed after the new one comes that is going to be a completely sleepless situation. They will cry but with every night you do it in a loving manner he will cry less until it stops. You have to stick to it because if you go in and 'rescue' him he will be trained to play you like that until you fix that problem too. You can't sleep with an infant and a toddler, it's not safe for the infant, but a temporary solution would be to get a sleeping bag or pack n' play and put it next to your bed if you can't bear the crying. |
| posted by Erin on 10/31/2008 02:49 PM
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