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| My 7 yr old is deathly afraid of heights. I feel bad for him at the playground because he will not climb like the other kids. At the mall he is afraid of the escalator and going up and down the stairs. What can I do? |
| Posted by Susan on 07/13/2008 05:46 PM
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THats a tuff one Susan I have not had to deal with the one with my kids two little ones yet but my step daughter is so afraid of heights that she wont even sleep in her bed that is just a normal twin bed height she sleeps on the flore. We tryed reasuring her that we where there and not going to let her fall when we would take them to the park and we even got her one of the rails for her bed so that she couldnt fall off but nothing scemed to help her at all. Her mom talked to the doc about it and figured out that it was more of the fear of being left and that she didnt feel safe at home after there Divorce so we all had to work with her on that one and it is slowly geting better.
All I can say is just make sure that he knows that you are there and will hold his hand if that is what he needs. If it dosnt get any better I might think about talking to the DOc about it at your next visit and he/she might have a scgestion of something that you can try that might help.
Good Luck |
| posted by Jennifer on 07/13/2008 06:57 PM
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| I agree, that IS a tough one. I haven't had to deal with this yet with my girl. But the first thing that comes to mind is, did anything happen to give him this fear?..did he himself have a bad fall or did he witness someone falling and getting hurt very badly? something like this can trigger a deep fear. when i was 3 or 4 years old, I got trapped in an elevator and another time, i saw an elevator missing from an open doored elevator shaft..to this day, i'm nervous in an elevator though i have always rode them (i used to be deathly afraid as a kid) and i hate heights. just take it one baby step at a time, communicate with him as much as you can, be very patient and don't force him to "jump back on the horse" so to speak, because if he's not ready and he feels forced it will definately just worsen his fear and cause other problems. you could always talk to his pediatrician or a child psychologist too if things don't improve or worsen. i am sure it must be hard if he hates to even climb stairs with you. good luck |
| posted by on 07/13/2008 11:58 PM
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| Susan i know where you are coming from because i am deathly afraid of hights if i go up past 10 feet i will pass out. But i recently got a job that forces me to climb latters a lot and i am slowely getting over my fear of hights. what i am suggesting is that try to introduce hights to him a little at a time and make the experance fun for him. if you have to take him on an esculator or the stairs tell him to look at the steeps and not to look up because when you are climbing the stair and you look up at the ceiling it makes you really dizzy and it feels like you are going higher then you really are.and always be there to hold his hand and tell him that he can do it and it is a part of life for him and let him know that you will always be there to help him if he ever gets scared. as with the playground try going up with him and holding his hand or stand behind him an tell if that he is not going to fall and if he does you will be there to catch him. but dont froce him to do to much at once. my dad did that to me by making me ride a carnival ride and it made me so scared i would not let my feet leave the floor i would always make sure that i had on foot on the floor. i hope that these suggestions help and if you need anymore ask me cuz i have a tone of them |
| posted by JAIMIE on 07/14/2008 04:56 PM
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| Thank you all for your help and advice. |
| posted by Susan on 07/14/2008 05:33 PM
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