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| Hi my name is Misty and i am 21 years old. I have a 2 month old and that is it for my husband and i. |
| Posted by Misty on 07/08/2008 09:40 PM
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| Oh misti i wish i was as young as u . Im 36 and have a 3 y/o son we atr TTC #2 ....u are so young to make such a hugh decision may I ask why u choose not to have anymore ? |
| posted by laura on 07/08/2008 09:51 PM
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Hi Misty!
Never say never. The first year for a new mom is really, really rough. You may also have post partum. Wait until your child is 2 or 3 before you make your decision about whether you'll have another. In the meantime, preparing your child to be an only child by getting really involved in MOPS and/or MOMS Club is a great idea. |
| posted by Amy on 07/08/2008 09:57 PM
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| Hi yeah i know i'm young but i just don't know as hard of a time as my husband and i are having with our daughter now i'm not sure we can handle another baby. |
| posted by Misty on 07/08/2008 10:44 PM
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| Babies that young are super hard. 2 months? You are probably running on zero sleep at night. Just wait a few years. In the meantime, get as much support as possible. Do you work or stay home? |
| posted by Amy on 07/08/2008 11:40 PM
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| the first year is the hardest esp. with the first cause we never know whatthe hek were doing plus running on no sleep sucks. Believe me it gets better Im a sahm and i know it gets better :) |
| posted by laura on 07/09/2008 07:56 AM
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| I am a SAHM also. Well actually at night she only wakes up once to eat and goes right back to sleep. But yeah i know i don't know what i'm doing half the time or what she needs or anything. It is also hard for me right now cause i have a busted up knee and a bruised ankel and it is extremelly hard for me to get around right now. But yes it is very hard. I hope it does get better soon cause i don't know what i'll do if it doesn't. |
| posted by Misty on 07/09/2008 08:02 AM
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Hi Misty,
It WILL get better. And soon! Don't worry about not knowing how to do everything. Women's intuition over past how many thousands of years has kept us all alive. Trust your instincts. If something feels unsafe, don't do it. Trust your gut.
The first few months are very, very hard and exhausting. Do you have postpartum depression? On top of that, if you are isolated or lonely or have no friends or neighbors with little babies it can be very stressful. |
| posted by Amy on 07/09/2008 08:14 AM
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| No i don't have any friends and i live in a trailer park with all old and retired people so i am the only one around here with a baby. But i do not think that i have post par tum |
| posted by Misty on 07/09/2008 08:31 AM
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It sounds like you do! But it's certainly nothing to be ashamed of. I had it really, really bad. But not like Brooke Shields. In her book she admits she wanted to throw her baby at the wall!
I never wanted to harm my baby but I was isolated, lonely, bored, and miserable. Do you have a nearby MOPS club? Or Moms Club? Do you have a La Leche League? (If you are breastfeeding.) You simply MUST get yourself surrounded by some supportive women! Even the old women in the trailer park, who were moms, will be a good help. LEAN ON PEOPLE now.It's against nature for women to take care of their babies all alone. Think of how we used to live in tribes, where allt he women hung out together all day, working, laughing, and taking care of each others babies to give each other a break. This is what you need. Come here for support and ASK ASK ASK if you need help! :-) |
| posted by Amy on 07/09/2008 08:34 AM
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| Yeah i have started a playgroup around my area for parents and i think that we are going to be meeting up in the next week or so after i have to take my daughter in for shots on Tuesday and were going out of town this weekend so i think maybe late next week if shes feeling up to it we might meet up for lunch or something. Thanks for the help. Misty |
| posted by Misty on 07/09/2008 08:38 AM
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Hi Misti
It doesnt sound like u have post pardom or u would know it im sure I never had it but im sure u would know it. Amy is right find friends that is a hugh help. That playgroup u are starting sounds great also try cafemom.com to find group in yr area.
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| posted by laura on 07/09/2008 12:27 PM
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Thanks you guys have been a great help
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| posted by Misty on 07/09/2008 12:36 PM
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