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Is the burocracy involved? Is the fear that one day your children might want to meet their biological parents? Is the reaction of friends/families?
I don't have adopted children but it is something that is always in the back of my mind but I am afraid I lack the courage of dealing with another set of issues. I am wondering how you adoptive parents prepared for it.
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| Posted by Vero on 01/31/2007 04:09 PM
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| The hardest part of adoption was the wait!!!The financial aspect of it was a close second,though.Once you meet that baby(we visited first)and when he joins you don't even remember these inconveniences.It is all so so incredibly worth it... |
| posted by Gloria on 01/31/2007 08:38 PM
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Vero, I really appreciate you adding me to this list.
We are 3/4 way thru our adoption and the wait period is just beginning(about 6 months)...it has taken us about 6 months to finalize the paperwork..by choice. I don't think one is ever prepared but we are certainly ready and trying. Actually, the experience, thus far, has been much better than expected. We have a great agency who is always a phone call away and that has helped. I think choice of agency is the most important choice you make when you decide on adoption. The pride and joy one gets out of adoption will far outweigh the lack of courage...I'm not quite there yet but I know that will be the case! Anyway, look forward to chatting as we continue our journey. Mary |
| posted by Mary an... on 02/04/2007 08:32 AM
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| for us...the paperwork was a nightmare...so many papers to chase and everyone wanting to be paid for every little thing, sometimes twice. As fas as our son wanting to know his biological relatives...we are all for that...he will know that he is adopted and we will celebrate the day he came into our home every year as it is a very special day for us. We do know he has 2 biological brothers a birth mom( we have her name), and a grandmother. The birth father is unknown. We adopted internationally from Guatemala, and we cant wait to go back for a visit when he is 10 or so and we learn spanish a little...We do have the address of his grandma which we intend to lookup... |
| posted by theresa on 02/07/2007 08:30 PM
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| Hello! We just adopted our first son from Korea in May & are on the waiting list to adopt again. I think the hardest part was the waiting/financial part too ;) Everyone would tell me as we waited for our son that we wouldn't remember the wait once we had him in our arms. They were definitely right. When we held him for the first time, all the sadness of waiting/infertility melted away. |
| posted by Gina on 02/27/2007 12:10 PM
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| In adopting from Vietnam there is a very little chance that you will ever know any family members. I would love to meet my daughters birthmother. However under the circumstances in which she was abandoned I don't think that will ever be possible. I would love to know the "Why". Why she did what she did. During the wait I had envisioned a senario on how she abandoned her child then I found out the truth and it was heartbreaking. I stil though try to envision a nicer senario and try to come up with answers. My husband and I chose to adopt right from the start. There were no infertility issues. We just decided to do that. It amazing what you have to go through. It makes you think why doesn't everyone have to go through this. It is even harder when you try to explain to family members the process when no one in the family has ever even thought of adoption. The wait is a given. You try to do little projects to get you through the months and then the refferral comes and you run around like a chicken with your head cut off just trying to figure out where all the time went. The money is unbelievable. Everyone, like someone else said, wants to be paid, twice, three times. I would love to do this again but I have no idea how we would ever get the money again. It seems like the money just came to us for our daughter, but I want to be a stay at home mom now so there is alot less of it. My husband says we were lucky to have such a gift and that were should not push our luck. |
| posted by melissa on 12/06/2007 03:55 PM
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